i havent heard or seen the girl in about 7 years. she contacts me on my space out of the blue. she has had a boy friend for 3 years. she says that she still loves me and would drop the other guy in a second if i came back around. i still love her. but she keeps waiting to break up with this guy until i come back home. we have been talking again since may of last year but i am stationed in Hawaii and i am currently deployed to iraq. i am supposed to go and see her this summer whenever i get to take leave. my question is; if two people love eachother and they split up for a great deal of time, and over that period of time never stop loving one another then why wont she break up with this guy right now instead of waiting till i get home?
2007-02-01 07:25:10 · 16 answers · asked by akindl83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This doesn't sound too good. It seems like this girl is waiting until you say yes, and if you don't, she's not going to break up with him. If she really had feelings for you and you only, she would break up with him anyway. It seems to me like if you said you didn't feel the same way, she would till go out with the other guy, especially since she has been dating him for three years.
She needs to be honest with both of you, or it's not going to work out.
Good luck to you!
2007-02-01 07:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you man, but from your story, it seems like your mind is scattered all over the place. You need to breath and take things slow. During hard times, everybody in the world needs someone to be there for them, In all reality the only ones that truly care during your teenage years especially is family.Teenagers are self centered. Until they actually experience something, thats when they will truly understand. Your girlfriend should of understood your stress, even though she had such a busy schedule, it doesn't take that long to give a person a hug, and tell them that everything will be ok. You did over react and shouldn't have offended her, but she doesn't seem very understanding. She is the last thing you should be stressing about bud. girls come and go, and if she was quick to break up with you, then she ain't the one for you to begin with. You need to be with your family during these hard times, and stay strong for them. Unfortunately for me, my grandparents are slowly dying and im no where close to them. Im in Canada, and there back home in South America. Think positively and be grateful that you can still be close to your Great grandma during these hard times. I can imagine how hard it must be, but again, you must be strong my dude. As far as your grandma, the government sucks, there system sucks. Your grandma is a BOSS tho man shes a strong lady. We all go through rough times man. I once had to move 4 times in less then a month about 2 years ago, and im back on my feets now. I know its not the same, cuz your grandma is an ederly lady. But things will get better. Life is not meant to be a perfect world man, its not a fairy tale. You will run into more bumps in the road as you continue your Life journey. But u will just get stronger and wiser each time. believe me. I may not be that old (Im only 26) but Iv gone through alot of stuff, and I just keep getting stronger for the next hurddle that comes along. Stay positive tho man, cuz thats whats gonna help you get through everything.
2016-03-29 00:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question I am not sure if I trust that she is being sincere with you. If she was serious she would dump him now not wait. Maybe she is keeping him on the sidelines to see or not if it works out with you. I would be careful with this girl if I were you. I broke up with my boyfriend and didn't see or speak for 2 years but when we saw each other for the first time again it was just like old times. We have been married for 15 years now. Be careful with this girl that she is sincere. Stay safe and thanks for serving our country!
2007-02-01 07:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly I think she is looking to have you there for support of her actions.But either way I think she should break it off now cause even if he isn't the one for her, he is still a person with feelings and shouldn't be lead on.If she cares for him at all she would.Maybe you need to say something to her about it in just that way.Its likely that she is just scared and unfortunately alot of women are security conscious and need that security to go through life.
Just be honest with her and tell her to break it off now and learn to stand on her own till you get back.It will make her stronger as a person and better for your whole relationship.Also,Its only fair she does for both you and this other guys best.
2007-02-01 07:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if your nervouse make it a double date. With a bud it might not be so awkard. Hey if she's willin' to drop a guy for you, its worth a try. But if you have strong feelings against it, go with your gut. If you don't you will regret it. I talk from experience. I am sorry to hear you are in Iraq. My bffl's cous. is in Iraq too. I know it must be terrible. Hope all ends well! And THANK YOU SO SO SO VERY MUCH FOR SERVING OUR COUNTRY!
2007-02-01 07:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah Ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Security. She's got a sure thing now. She wants to wait to make sure you really aren't just blowing smoke, and let's face it, if you are deploying to Iraq, there is the possibility you won't be coming back alive.
Personally, I think a woman like this who is going with a guy for 3 years and then holds on to him until you get there to dump him is one big LOSER and lacks decency. I wouldn't get involved with this LOSER ... DUMP HER before she dumps you.
2007-02-01 07:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she really doesn't want to if she would drop him in a heart beat then why want she you think about she is just leading you on why don't you try getting over her and find somebody who is willing to love you like you love her.
2007-02-01 07:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by jsxy695 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sees you in the military as a meal ticket. Trust me, she will use ya and abuse then lose ya. The ties were cut, now throw it away. Saw to many buddies get hurt this way.
2007-02-01 07:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think she wants her cake and eat it too, or she wants a lover and a partner.
She is messin with your emotions, drop her, she aint worth it.
Find someone that will chill ya to the bone.
2007-02-01 07:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could go a lot of different directions but if she's living out on her own she may need his help with the bills.....I've done worse!
2007-02-01 07:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋