What can I do to cry? I believe it is a very healthy and cathartic thing to do, but am unable to do it.?

Question

When I was young my father shamed me out of crying. He told me only weak people do it. I think it was a very sick thing for him to do/believe, but now I am unable to cry and would appreciate some feedback as to how to bring tears. Please don't make jokes. And don't talk about inflicting pain because that just gives me pain and I am not able to cry. Slicing onions doesn't do it either.

Answer 1

I think a lot of people might have something like that--a parent says something or other and the kid takes it very seriously for the rest of his or her life. When I was a little kid my father said people who have eyebrows grown together "look like monkeys." My eyebrows started to grow together and I plucked them for years (and I'm male).
Even if you did cry when cutting onions or whatever, it's probably not the same as emotionally crying.
You'd probably have to totally relax; It might happen if you talked with a really good counselor and you talked about things that may have bothered you from your childhood and so on. Maybe hypnotherapy would work.
However, it might have a physical cause--you could talk to a doctor; some people do have blocked tear ducts--maybe the thing your father said is just a coincidence or maybe it's some weird "mind over body" thing that nobody can explain.

Answer 2

Well your not looking for a reaction from cutting onions or a fan, your looking for emotional stimulation. I heard that human beings are the only animal on earth that actually cry, which makes us pretty unique. But hey, crying isn't necessarily for "weak people", its what some human beings do, and its just emotional stimulation.You can always do what the dude in fight club did. Go to one of those support circles where people express their emotions among others.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

In a way, you are lucky. I cry too much. I cry over the least little thing and is is awful, and extremely embarassing!

I wish I knew how to find the happy medium...crying when it is appropriate (like at the death of someone close) and not crying when it is inappropriate (like things not going my way).

I dunno, I guess I don't really see a need to cry. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I'm sure you handle sadness in your own way, without tears.

Answer 5

You may need a session or two of couseling to get in touch with your feelings and give yourself permission to cry.

And shame on your father. If he gives you a hard time, remind him you won't be crying at his funeral, either.

Answer 6

This one's easy. Just keep your eyes open in front of a fan so that air blows in your eyes. Don't blink and keep your eyes open for over a minute. Tears will come rushing out.

Answer 7

i'm sorry- i understand- i'm a "tough girl" myself. I was trained tough and i can't find who i am. Work'in on it though. Thank you for letting me know that i'm not alone. I do relate. Wish i could help you. Listen to yourself and let yourself feel. The important thing is that you make yourself aware of your OWN feelings. And let go!

Answer 8

Go peel an onion