ok dnt get me wrong im no sicko or anything....im just a 16 year old boy that is in love with a 23 year old woman. she is the love of my life i dnt know if she loves me but we get along very well and well sometimes she hints things she calls me baby sometimes and a few times she even mentioned marrige-in a joking way...i know i can get her but how do you bring something up without messing things up? i want to know if she feels the same way i do and maybe she does most likely she does the problem just might be that she cant do the age thing,ya kno cuz she has morals and all she realy is a good person, she has a good head on her shoulders, shes jamacian. oh and we live togther..its kinda hard for me to not tell her exactly how i feel. but im always hinting it.i dont want to put it out in the open till the time is right just so that i dont mess up or anything...please help with any and all theadvice you can give i realy do love this girl...i mean woman?!
2007-02-01 07:24:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are 2 words that I can say that'll sum up this whole situation:
Statutory Rape.
I won't beat around the bush, or beat this with a pillow for fear of hurting feelings. If she did have any morals, she wouldn't be robbing you of your young and innocent years. You said it yourself, "16-year old BOY, 23-year-old WOMAN." And living together as well? That must mean your parents don't approve of you 2 dating. I don't blame them. I know someone who did the EXACT same thing you 2 are doing, and the older party wound up in jail for Statutory Rape. Look, I'm sure she's great, but this is wrong on so many levels. I'm also thinking that if you are telling her how you feel, she may be playing on those emotions to make you do whatever she wants you to do.
However, if you want to know how she feels about you, just ask. Asking a question to something you want to know is the most effective weapon in your arsenal.
2007-02-01 07:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't win someone's affection, and you don't love her. Love is always reciprocated and never forbidden. She's 23 years old, if you just says she's moral she doesn't like or want you. I used to play around with little boys all the time I didn't want them in any way and I'm sure they thought they were in love, but it wasn't love. I am beautiful and I was nice to them, and they thought that me being civil was having feelings for them and it wasn't. So I think that maybe you need to cool down and find someone you're own age, because you are wasting your time. Or she could just be a pervert. As long as you're not American I don't think it's against the law so go for it. It won't work out. You have nothing in common and mentally she could be like ten years older than you. So good luck with that. Tell her what could you lose? But yeah it oculd be weird and you are wasting your time. Tough love, sorry.
2007-02-01 07:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rarely is a 23 yr old woman interested in a 16 yr old boy. Unless she has serious maturity issues. When you become 23 you will realize that 16 is still a child.
She is probably very flattered at the attention you give her. If she is not aware of your feelings she may not realize she is giving you hope for a future for her.
I was 17 and "in love" with a 23 year old woman. It never went anywhere because she was not interested. My feelings were hurt for a while, but, a few years later I realized why she had not been interested. She was a grown woman and if she had been interested in me it would have shown she had self-esteem issues.
Same with a guy that dates teenage girls while they are in their late 20's into their 30's.
2007-02-01 07:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to tell you that there are many very handsome, muscular gay guys who look more straight than straight guys. And I don't know how true it is but if we categorize different sexualities depending on their looks we can say that gay/bi males category tops the list with good looking people then straight females, then lesbians/bi, and then straight males. Yes believe me straight male category has the most ugliest looking people on this planet (not to offense anyone, i'm just stating facts) and may be that is the reason why so many straight girls fall in love/lust/infatuation with guys and those guys later turn out to be gay/bi. That Austin guy might be bi or closeted gay. If someone is married to opposite sex partner it doesn't mean he's is straight. I have also heard and read about numerous such stories where married man indulges in sex with his gay/bi friend. So what I think is you'll definitely find some white muscular looking gay man and also there is no harm in trying with gay men of other ethnicities. And please leave Texas if you can afford because whatever I have heard of that place it is among the most homophobic places in western hemisphere. I don't know whether you are out of closet or not but I think you need to come out of closet to let your true love to find you.
2016-03-29 00:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you had it right, she is a 23-year old girl. A women at 23 would't bang a 16-year old boy.
At 16 you ought to be man enough to know this, just because you are using your thing doesn't mean that you not having a little boy crush.
2007-02-01 07:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off You live with this woman??? Why? Where are your parents? You are still considered a child in the eyes of the law and she is an adult. If you two hook up she can be arrested and charged as a sex offender so I would be careful if I were you. It is normal for young men to have crushes on older women but don't act on this. You are too immature to handle the consequences and she can get arrested.
2007-02-01 07:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U better wait at least 2 more yrs when u are 18---and then get serious cause u underage now and could cause her troubles or your parents could cause her troubles.
When u 18 , just ask her to marry u.
2007-02-01 07:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest...and see where it takes you....although in some states if a 23 yr old is with someone under the age of 18 its called statutory rape...make sure you check out the laws. and it doesn't matter if its consensual, its still illegal.
2007-02-01 07:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by ?! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! You are JAIL BAIT FOR THIS WOMAN! Get over the infatuation that you are calling love. Find a GIRL your age and then move forward.
2007-02-01 07:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u hint it all the time the time to her mayb she is also hinting to u that its not gonna work..... she is old enough to know what she wants, & if she really wanted to b w/ u she would say something, but i wish u the best! Goodluck!
2007-02-01 07:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋