We had a birthday party for a friend of mine. We asked her what kind of cake she wanted. She loves cheesecake. So thats what we bought for her. One of the party goers had the nerve to complain and say why couldn't she have picked something else I hate cheesecake. She said that my friend should have picked something else that everybody would like. We just told her well it is HER birthday and its HER choice. Some other people didn't care for it either but they just didn't eat the cheesecake and they let her enjoy it. Instead of trying to make her feel guilty for her choice. I was like come on its her birthday......Its her day and not yours....
2007-02-01 07:22:47 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I agree.
2007-02-03 05:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ivri_Anokhi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude. Honestly, why would someone do that....the girl wanted cheesecake. It's an opinion that SHE should be making, since it is her special day. If that party goer didn't like it: TOUGH LUCK. And if she thinks that the friend is stupid or awful person for picking the cheesecake, then why go to the party at all if you are going to make Birthday Girl upset over something so dumb and worthless. It wastes the time of you and the friend.
2007-02-01 07:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kemical X 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in that it was very rude of her friend to complain about the cake choice. You can't please everybody. Next time you should ask her what cake she likes for her birthday. Throw a party and get cheesecake, and explain to her that you did a vote and everyone present at the party said they would enjoy cheesecake more over her cake choice. See what she says then.
2007-02-01 07:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course that's ridiculously rude. They really didn't have to come to the party if they were going to have such a bad time, especially since YOU were the one throwing the party. It's not like the person asked all these people to come and give her stuff. And YOU were the one asking what she wanted. I might have had another small cake for other people if I were coordinating it, but that would depend on how many people would be there. Maybe. But then, I like cheesecake AND regular cake...
2007-02-01 07:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very rude. Even if i don't like the kind of cake that is being served for someone's birthday i won't eat any of it, or i will just take a small piece so they won't ask me why i didn't take any. It is very rude to complain about the cake that is being served because it is normally the kind of cake the person, whose birthday is being celebrated likes.
2007-02-01 08:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's too rude. The best would be that you don't eat the cake by telling any other excuse instead of making the birthday girl feel bad about it. Ofcourse, its her birthday.....and you did the best job by bringing the cake of her choice. Some ppl are just so individualistic they dont care about the other's...I would suggest better avoid such people. They need to be taught some lessons on mannerism.
2007-02-01 07:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by GK 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right. I hate cheesecake. However, if I were at that party I just wouldn't have had any cake. No big deal. I like Cookie Cake. I know not everybody does.
2007-02-01 07:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was totally "rude" of the "friend." Some people are raised to think that the world revolves around them, no matter the situation. Recently, there have been books written about this, because so many parents seem to have a difficult time saying no to their children and giving the kids everything they desire. Unfortunately, when these kids become adults they want everything their way and can become verbally abusive when things aren't their way. (Imagine being their boss?!! -- My husband has to deal with this all the time, now....)
2007-02-01 07:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by voycinwilderness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah no doubt, rude and bratty. If she didn't like the cheesecake, she wasn't obligated to eat it and simply could've kept her mouth shut. You are right, it's your friends birthday and its should be the birthday girls choice. I personally hate people that act like that because its selfish and annoying.
2007-02-01 09:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it was rude for the person to have the nerve to say something about your choice....its just cake. But why say something, and why draw attention to yourself when it is somebody elses big day, not yours. Well, it happened, it can't be changed, so it would be best to keep going.....but it was rude.
2007-02-01 08:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by tromboneguy_12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's NOT rude at all! You should be thanking her for giving you advice. You never do what the b-day person wants ever. You always go with the guest. That girl is right you should have bought a cake for her, not a cheese cake for the birthday person. I mean c'mon why the heck is this rude at all? I would have done the same thing. Gosh go back to school and tell me when a real problem arises.
2007-02-01 07:34:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋