My fellow accountant came in and said that she was sorry for being so hard to work with last week but it was the first week that her daughter stayed with her ex all week. She has a half half sharing arrangement. Her daugher is three. I see this as typical in white divorces, that the fathers fight the wives for custody of the kids. Don't you think that small children need their mothers more and seeing them part of every weekend and maybe early dinner once a week would be good? I am not trying to be racist here, just curious. Also, I am middle class so it is not class we are talking about. Thanks for the discussion.
2007-02-01 07:22:23 · 11 answers · asked by black sun 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am sure its not a race thing a father should want his children
2007-02-01 07:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Two parts to this.
First, the question of race. Maybe. Maybe, in general, white men were raised with a different attitude about children than black men. Of course, this would be a generality since there are many excellent black fathers (I am thinking of one right now) and some lousy white ones.
Second part: Mom vs. Dad.
No, I do not think that children are better off with one or the other. It's a generality. Some dads are great while mom stinks.
There's nothing inherent about a woman that says that she needs to be the better or preferred parent (outside of breastfeeding).
While any sort of custody arrangement is a shame, if it has to happen, there's nothing wrong with 50/50 if both parents want it and step up to fulfilling their part of it.
Week on/week off is less disruptive, actually, than going back and forth withing the same week.
2007-02-01 07:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two children, one by a white man and one by a black man. The white one has been in and out of jail, has never paid a dime of child support or wanted anything to do with his baby. The black father has been there for both my kids, paid his child support on time, babysits even when its not his time, etc. He wants full custody and would be a wonderful father if i wasnt around. I just cant stand to be away from my children. If something happens to me, i want him to take them both! Race doesnt matter, its all responsabiltiy and love.
2007-02-01 07:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that this isn't a statisticly proven fact that white men are more apt to take an active role in the lives of their children. I am extremely blessed to have a husband who LOVES to be hands on in our daughters life. We are both middle class white americans and our daughter is almost 2. I feel that as long as both parents are 100% dedicated to the welfare of the child and providing a healthy safe environment that then both parents divorced or no need to be active with their children.
2007-02-01 08:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by mamaladybok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you have the nerve to complain about fathers who actually want their children!!!!!! What are you thinking!!!! Good fathers should want custody and want to see their children as much as possible!!!!!! I agree it could be kind of confusing going back and forth every week but if it's done right the child can enjoy both parents equally like the way it should be!!!! Get real man!!!!
2007-02-01 07:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by The_Game 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fathers no matter what race that want to share custody are the responsible fathers that care about there children with all there hearts and have the childrens best intreat at heart!! A child no matter what age needs both of his/her parents.
2007-02-01 07:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by LOVE MY LIFE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well the baby is in the mothers stomach and she wil often breastfeed it. Usually she has the instincts to know what is wrong with her baby first. Therefore the baby usually starts off by going to the mother. Many men take off (happened to me).. and the mother is the one that is left with the responsiblity (and child support doesnt' even cover near 1/2 of the child's money costs over the years)... So the mother is the one that things 'fall back on' if the man doesn't want the baby, or decided to slack off or not pay... she carried it, she nursed it. The guy can run (and often do) so they aren't taken as seriously. They have to 'take' the baby from the mom because she is the one that has it from conception on...
2007-02-01 07:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of ethnicity, a father should want to be involved with their children more than part of every weekend if they love their children. Whether or not they are qualified to is a different story.
2007-02-01 07:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Tooth 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 01:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by doti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out how the kids feel and who they want to be with. It has been my experience that men do what they can to make the wife's life miserable. I don't think they are thinking of the kids, they just want to hurt the wife and that is my opinon.
2007-02-05 05:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by cprucka 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋