Ok, imagine a women who is attracted to a guy and he is as well but she sleeps and/or hooks up with other guys who are less attractive and actually cheating on their gf's with this woman.....Please keep in mind the guy in question is not like the other guys (Has morals, doesn't sleep around etc.). How can she say she digs the good guy but they never seem to get that close? could it be she is scared of what become?? Just curious. Kind of having that situtation right now. I appreciate any insight or opinions. Thanks ladies!
2007-02-01 07:13:27 · 27 answers · asked by Chef 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yo Napsack....RELAX BRO...It was just a question....Dam!!
2007-02-01 07:21:38 · update #1
This happens a lot.
Girls feel they do not deserve the good god so they sell themselves short by jumping into things with other gays that are not good for them or for guys they can not have.
2007-02-01 07:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be any number of reasons...
If she's just hooking up with these other guys, it could be that she likes feeling that she's the one in control (no relationship=no potential heartbreak)... and/or that she has low self esteem & having many men gives her the thought of "hey, I'm attractive".
Maybe she's had the "nice guy" in her life before, and something happened that really hurt her, and she doesn't want to be hurt again. Maybe she's not wanting to be in a relationship at the moment, but wants to keep her options open (not realizing that this could turn around & bite her in the rear once she finally wants a relationship & the object of her affection has moved on to someone who will not "dangle the carrot" just out of his reach. Maybe she just wants a friend. Or maybe she's polyamourous. Or maybe she's just a tramp, but even tramps have feelings, they just hide them better.
The only way to really know what is going through her mind on this is to sit her down & ask her - in a non-accusatory way. She may not even know the answer herself, but at least you'll have tried to find out from the source.
2007-02-01 07:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true that Good Guys finish last. In my personal experiences..resisting a cute good guy (is stupid) but also easy. Good guys are rarely that exciting. No offense. It sounds as if you're girl may like some drama. I mean come on, sleeping with taken men...not good.
She could also be scared to get too close to you. She may not believe youre truely a good guy and she distances herself from you to protect herself. If she can't immediately find your faults then she may keep herself at a distance because she suspects you're a player. She obviously has been exposed to quite a few of those. She doesn't want to "buy your game" and so she occupies her time with "honest" losers. Therefore, she knows what to expect. You on the other hand - she could seriously get hurt and no one likes that.
2007-02-01 07:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by HatingF8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a woman, but of course that won't stop me from answering your female question that was directed at females.
Some women don't want the emotional baggage that comes along with being with a nice guy. A Bad Guy represents an easy, non-risky relationship. If things don't work out, well the guy was an ****** anyway. Plus, nice guys often just appear nice, because they're unwilling to ask for the things that they want. You can be nice, but you can't be a speed bump.
2007-02-01 07:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women are attracted to “bad boys”. They are exciting and not boring. Nice guts are often boring. It may be wrong to think this way but life isn’t in reality always the way it should be.
Does she know even know how you feel about her? If she doesn’t you should let her know. Communication is more important than anything.
Are you already in a relationship with her? If so you need to dump her fast!
If not, don’t be too sickly nice and don’t look desperate or smother her. Be nice but don’t be sickening sweet.
If you like her as much as you seem to, talk to her and ask her why she’s doing that. If you can’t talk with her you probably shouldn’t be with her. At least if you talk to her she will know how you feel. If she keeps doing what she’s doing you will know that she’s not worth your time or energy. In that case she will cause you nothing but pain.
2007-02-01 08:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Patty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we don't know whos a good guy and whos a bad guy until we into a relationship. Ans sometimes the good guy has his head up so high that we think hes to good for us. Or would never want to talk to us. The best thing to do is be the first to be there for her when she finds out her man is cheating on her.
2007-02-01 07:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All wemon like the feeling of danger no matter what the cost. Most wemon like me loose this feeling AFTER high school you know? And anyone who would cheat on you is a DUMB *** now listion and listion good throw that skanky hoe out of your mind and move on (sorry tough love) I mean reaally do you want to be with some one who sleeps around? NO and if i where you i'd tell her off be like "excuse me *****! why the f&#$ are you sleeping with these other dudes you know what we done hoe!" but you seem to nice lol kk good luck =]
2007-02-01 07:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by julia s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she has never had a serious relationship or she doesnt care to. Do you want to be with someone knowin they have that kind or reputation? What if you did get serious what makes you think she wont cheat on you with one of these guys? The only possible way would be to tell her and make it Clear. Ask her why she doesnt like commitment. Why she likes these men who dont treat her right. If she wants to be treated right shed open her eyes and be with you.
2007-02-01 07:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why she's acting like that. That's not really the issue.The real issue is: Why are YOU attracted to someone who doesn't have the same morals as you and isn't really that into you? If she were, then she'd cut out all the crap and love you. Go find a nice girl that wil treat you right. She's out there. I promise.
2007-02-01 08:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by zoe d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, at 17, 18, 19 etc, people are really only looking for a good time, not a long time, for the most part, so maybe teh girls you have dated just wanted some fun, thast all well and good, as long as both parties know that hwoever now you are getting into the age realms of serious dating, but at 22 you are just starting out as an adult relax, be patient, and have fun along the way she will come along and probably when you least expect it!
2016-05-24 02:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women perfer to have many guys instead of just one. Some women will only date married men as they know they don't have to keep them. She may be afraid of commitment and therefore will not get close to anyone. I say find another women who does not like to just sleep around.
2007-02-01 07:18:19 · answer #11 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋