my fiance and i have picked out june 12 2009 as our wedding date to give us enough time to get the money to pay for the wedding and our overseas honeymoon, and to get all the details settled, like my dress(there's soooo many pretty ones!! it's hard to choose!) location, etc. lately, however, i've been wanting the wedding to come sooner, like 2008. however, his sister is renewing her vows around the same time in poland, where her husband is from. should we just stick out with the date we have? if not, what should we do? his brother in law is supposed to be his best man!! and between august and may wouldn't work since we're in college.
2007-02-01 07:09:52 · 11 answers · asked by Duelen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my sister in law to be just got married last year. we're not totally sure if they are renewing vows...however, my fiance and i were engaged first, but didn't have the support we needed to get married at that time.
and i don't want a destination wedding, but we're attending hers, if they have it.
2007-02-01 07:31:36 · update #1
First of all congrats on your engagement! If your sister in-law planned her event before yours then you should respect her date and not plan your event so close to hers. Also keep in mind, that guests may have financial limitations, and they might feel flustered by having to spend money on two events so close in time. The date you have planned sounds great, if you stick to it you'll have plenty of time to plan without feeling stressed out!
Good luck!
2007-02-01 07:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by vivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused; is the sister's vow renewal in 2008 or 2009?
If the vow renewal is too close to the date you already have (June 12, 2009), have you booked anything yet? (Hall, Church, DJ...) If not, I would say simply change the date; a week before or after won't make much difference. If you've already booked something, you could probably still move it. IF the sister already booked any of her stuff (let's face it, it's probably going to be harder for her to change it than you).
If you mean the sister's vow renewal is in 2008, when you want your wedding I would say hold off until 2009. The whole money thing is a bigger issue than you can imagine, and it is wise to wait and save. (And better to be paying for more yourself....that way you have less people to please!)
2007-02-01 15:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want to move the date closer, you should. It does not have to take 2 1/2 years to plan a wedding, even if you're a movie star! Try to make sure most of your guests will be able to be there (if you have to change the month, go ahead), but in the end you can't make sure every person you know will be there. Because they won't be! That's a long time to wait as it is... I wouldn't be able to! If it's ok with your fiance, move it.
2007-02-01 15:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by heatre24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key. also think about others. they seem to renew their vows then for they want it to be their year. you guys decided 2009 to be your year. if you bump it back, your fiance might feel you are trying to pressure him. if you take time, you can safe more money and have a perfect wedding and college will not be a factor, in which in 2008 it will be
CONGRATS!!!
2007-02-01 15:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your date is 2009 and you are worried about it now? Isn't it kind of early to be freaking about dresses and stuff like that now? I'm sure if you discuss this technicality with his sister she will understand and perhaps move her renewal date forward or back to accommodate you.
2007-02-01 15:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to stick with your date that's fine. If you're worried about it being too close to the sister's date, you may have to consider switching it from June to another month if people are going to have to be travelling alot.
2007-02-01 19:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1, i really would not have an overseas wedding. considering youre probably going to have everyone pay for their own tickets, it sounds like a nice idea but its a terrible imposition on people, period. next, if you chose thsat date first, you need to impress upon your sister that she shouldnt schedule her thing so close. if she chose the date first, you move it.
2007-02-01 15:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is right for you. You can't keep changing your date to suit others. You will never get married. Keep the date.
2007-02-01 15:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your original date.
2007-02-01 16:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience is a virtue. stick with the original date. got a whole extra year to help eleviate any crunch time.
2007-02-01 15:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Civilian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋