I dated her for only six weeks, dated once a week, only got to heavy petting. She came to my house once......
I didn't feel any real attachment and didn't want to go any further.
So I ended it prior to Thanksgiving. She still calls my cell and drives by my house. Should I contact her to restate my wishes or hope she doesn't turn into a problem
2007-02-01 07:08:57 · 31 answers · asked by stalin lager 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nice, got yourself a stalker. I would avoid confrontation since that might make her mad and you don't want to make psycho stalkers mad, that's for sure.
2007-02-01 07:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jaffar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she isn't ready to let go! If she calls your cell phone just don't answer it and avoid her.. She already knows that you aren't interested and telling her again might turn into a problem, if you aren't having any contact with her hopefully she will take the hint that you just don't want to be with her. The worst thing you could do it talk to her when she calls, or have any type of contact with her because in her eyes if you talk to her when she calls or while your out she thinks there is a chance that you will want to have a relationship with her and she will just keep focusing on you and not on moving on with her life..
2007-02-01 07:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by kimmiejokimmiejo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and restate her wishes, but she seems like the stalker type, so you don't want to set her off. Let her know that she break up with you and you think it would be best if she didn't call you or stop by your house. If she continues to do it......change your number. As long as she isn't making any personal visits than you can't get a restraining order, she isn't making any threats or displaying violent behavior. But the moment she does you call the cops and get that restraining order. Good luck hon!
2007-02-01 07:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should contact her just to let her know that u only want to be friends with her. She may need closure because she may get attached to people fast and she may can't handle rejection, so talk very calmly to her and get right to the point. If after u do that and she still does these things, you may have a stalker on your hands. That's when u should take the legal procedures to stop her.
2007-02-01 07:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe she just wanted to be your friend, or pay a hard to get at first. Again, maybe she just wanted you to make a move first. I think she know now that she might not have a chance with you for sure, and don't want to loose you for good. I don't know what to tell you because I am not there with you. I don't think I want to assume of what she is doing right now. If she is a stalker then she would be a bad news for you. You can just follow your instinct, or your wisdom to what to do next. Stay save.
2007-02-01 07:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called stalking. Send a police officer to her house and have them explain it to her. From Then on keep a notebook of all dates and times that she drives by and calls after the police give her their warning. When you have enough information against her then you can get a restraining order.
2007-02-01 07:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a stalker to me. Did you let her know you are not interested in that special way? or just lead her on to the point of thinking you wanted a relationship? So did you just mind f*ck her? or is she really bieng wrong for thinking you cared? Weigh the scales and decide.
2007-02-01 07:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a stalker. Yes, please talk with her and let her know that you are not interested in her in that way. You didn't say she was a bad person just that you all didn't click, so let her know that she is nice and all but she is just not someone you are interested in having a relationship with. Let her know you have no hard feelings and you would like her to stop calling and driving by your house.
2007-02-01 07:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look out friend, especially if you have any pet rabbits (remember Fatal Attraction).
Call her once and say you want nothing more to do with her and make it harsh and to the point no chit chat.
After that, if she persists, you may have to involve the law - there are a lot of fruitcakes out there ...
2007-02-01 07:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by zappafan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore her for now as it would seem any communication with her might make her worse. If she gets to be a problem, restate your wishes and explain to her what stalking is and why you would get a retraining order if she persists. For now, just see if she brings it any further.
2007-02-01 07:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prevent someone from driving on public streets but you can answer her next call. Tell her you have moved on and ask her to stop calling you. If you are nice about it then she might stop, but if she makes it worse you would have the right to go to the cops.
2007-02-01 07:15:08 · answer #11 · answered by dynamicduo79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋