i'm the kind of girl that gets upset and insecure when my man doesn't spend friday and saturday night with me.. am i being unreasonable for expecting the weekends to be for me and my man? if my man says he can't spend weekends with me i get suspicious! is something wrong with me? and how often do you spend with your man? much lovexx
2007-02-01 06:52:21 · 9 answers · asked by God's own 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends. Do you spend a lot of time together during the week? Do you have any time together? If he is always choosing his friends over you then there is a problem. But if he gives you a lot of his time and just wants some self time, then you should be secure enough in the relationship to trust him.
2007-02-01 06:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be just that--insecurity. I understand you wanting to spend time with your boy, but maybe he just needs time to do something that he really wants to do or just time to chill with his pals. I don't think it's anything personal against you when he has weekend plans.
Maybe, on the weekends that he has other plans, you can plan time for just you and your girls. Go to the mall, or to the movies, or just get together at someone's house and do all things purely girl. You know, gossip, chick flicks. That kind of stuff.
I think that it's alright to spend a lot of time with your guy, just make sure neither of you are suffocating. Sometimes, spending TOO much time together can kill the romance. So on those weekends that you two can't be together, think of it as giving each other time to actually miss the other. That way, when you get to spend time together again, you'll really look forward to it.
2007-02-01 15:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kaylin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that too, well not insecure about it but thought that we only get so much time with just the 2 of us, with both of us having children, working full time, 10-12 hours a day, and only 4 saturdays a month are actually a day with just us, its tough, but now we live together and though I am still missing that 1 on 1, at least I rise and set with him everyday just like the sun.
Talk to your man, tell him your feelings and try to let him know that you want and need that time with him. Being a couple you need time to grow. You are not asking too much. I wouldn't get suspicious or insecure about it, I'm sure he is trying to divide his time up with work, friends, whatever, but he needs to make time with you too
2007-02-01 14:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural to think that. I am too I get annoyed when I dont see my man either.
But we all need our space. I doubt that he is cheating on you,just wants to spend some time with the lads.
My man is committed on having a good old piss up witth lads and comes home late, I dont mind.
Did u ask why he cant spend the weekends with you?
I see my man abt 3days a week sometimes its only for 2hours a day. As long as he calls/text I dont mind.
Take care n good luck
2007-02-01 14:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by aarti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I wish I could spend every weekend with my bf too but sometimes we can't be together. It's normal to have those feelings, just as long as they don't go overboard you know the fatal attraction type of thing. If you don't spend the whole week together and your only chance you can see eachother till the weekend and he blows you off then yeah that's wrong unless he has to work or something but if he goes somewhere else with his friends and rather be with them then you then yeah big problem.
2007-02-01 14:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well me and man try to spend weekends together, since we both work and that is the only free time we have. There are occasions that either me or him cant go out for some reason, and we are okay with it. I think that you have trust issues with your guy,if you trusted him then you wouldn't get upset or insecure.
2007-02-01 14:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by girlieGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Girl,
First of all do you have anyone else in your life you like to spend time with?Friends or family? You see if you have plans already with someone else, you wont feel so "insecure". Me and Mine have date night. Every Saturday night for 18yrs we go out together.. Try 1 night for friends and the other night for JUST HIM...Good Luck Girl
2007-02-01 15:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by jodygirl1967 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem. My bf would go out with the guys to dinner or those game places. Most of his friends where single too so that did not help the situation. I used to get so mad about it because i was just sitting around waiting all the time. Then i started making dates with my girl friends. we started taking a night and doing something together. It was nice. its not like he was cheating on me or anything. it was me. But now we are able to do things apart. I will go out firday and then sat we hang out. its good to get out with the girls. try it.
2007-02-01 15:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dos he work all week, give him a break..........
2007-02-01 14:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋