.. my boyfreinds parents are so over controlling! hes almost 18 but they still treat him like hes a child!. he's never gone on a train byhimself because his parents are too scared to let him.. and our realtionship.. wel when he does even the slightest thing wrong they punish us.. i feel insulted.. but his parents are very inimidating so i dont blame him for being scared to confront them about how they controll him too much. im not sure how much more i can take and ontop of that his parents dont think im genuine.. they think that im not who i "appear to be" which is horrible.. i dont know how to please them. they always compare me to his female friends and say that he shouldnt be with me. I really want him to stand up to them.. and tel him hes got his own life... but how do i tell him.. so far he just sweeps it under the carpet so to speak.. but now its getting unbearable. please help!!!!! thank you!
2007-02-01 06:51:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been together for almost two years.. and this problem began from the start
2007-02-01 07:06:45 · update #1
He lives in their house and is supported by them. Regardless of his age, he has to follow the house rules! He has good parents, that are looking out for his best interest! In this day and age, you can't blame a parent for being overprotective! That includes them not wanting him to get to involved with ANY girl at such a young age! They must have picked up on something about you they don't like. All you can do is be yourself, be polite, and be patient! they will like you even less if you start pushing their Son do go against the family's wishes! When he can afford to support himself and live on his own, then he can have his own life and make all his own decisions!
2007-02-01 07:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie you're not his wife so you shouldn't be giving him any advice on how to deal with his parents. He's almost 18, and as long as he's living in their house they have the right to control his actions and give him advice on whatever they want. There is no "standing-up" to your parents. He's not grown. When he's grown he'll be paying his own bills and living in his own house, until he moves out you need to mind your own business. My parents are controlling my boyfriend doesn't give me any lip about them controlling me, well he has sense so that is the main difference. After he moves out and they come over to his place to try and run his life, and you're his wife, not girlfriend, then you have a problem, until then. I'd keep my mouth shut if I were you. Hold your tongue sweetie. Good luck!
2007-02-01 06:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hy first of all I am very sorry to hear that you are going through all this stress.
First of all I think that it is vital to understand some of these things before I can consider to answer your question.
1. HOW long have you been in this relationship with this person.
2. WHAT religious back ground or values and beliefs systems do they appear to have from your understanding?
3. WHAT nationality are you all from?
2007-02-01 07:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie Luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, and not probably, yet style of. It began while i became into 5 and drove a snowmobile for the 1st time. Then I moved onto ATVs and by way of 12 or thirteen i became into using dad's truck out interior the rustic. i became into probably 14 the 1st time I drove on a city street, and that i had my enable as quickly as I became sixteen (minimum age in my state). My mothers and dads persevered to coach me to force until I have been given my license. right here summer they made me get a job at an in one day summer camp, so as that they did not worry approximately me putting out with my fellow teenage friends and entering into worry. they did not desire to could force me decrease back and forth to artwork- yet using fact they quite plenty compelled me to artwork there they had to get me there by some skill. My grandma purely occurred to have an unused automobile sitting around, so as that they gave me that for the summer. while camp ended and college began, they by no skill asked for the motor vehicle decrease back. i think of at that factor they theory I had earned it- I worked the entire summer with basically having some hours off at a time. It became into nonetheless in my grandma's call nonetheless- and it did get taken away for a week or 2 at a time when I have been given in worry. I stored the motor vehicle until i became into 22 and offered a clean (to me) automobile.
2016-12-13 06:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that with my kids with all the crazy people now a days his parents are being protective of him its something that they do sorry i am i haven't got any more encouraging words but when he moves out they will be fine i think..
2007-02-01 07:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another boyfriend, whose parents like you!
2007-02-01 06:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you need to grow up and get away from them
2007-02-01 06:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by nicu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There just looking out for their kid and if you care about him you would understand...
2007-02-01 06:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg this same thing is happening with me...if you whould like to talk about it with me you can im me...
2007-02-01 06:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋