For the past 3 months we had been fighting and were on each other's throats. He started hanging out with 2 guys who are both jerks. I believe they had a big influence on our relationship. A girl answered the phone and he said it was his friends' friend. I'm trying to get back with him and I'm willing to forget everything and start all new, because I've also been talking to other people.(He doesn't Know). He keeps on saying that he can't be with me because he hurt me and he could never accept what he did. All he's trying to do is change to the way he used to be when we first met. He doesn't take me back. What is he thinking? What should I do?
2007-02-01 06:44:12 · 17 answers · asked by Lipzz01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on! as hard as it is, it's time to move on. sounds like he's making excuses to you to make you/him feel better. if he really wanted to get back with you, then you'd be back together. what you have to really realize is that you deserve to be treated better than that. be with someone that treats you as good as you do them.
things are easier said than done, but first you have to realize that you deserve better than all that!
2007-02-01 06:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, really think about it. The whole trust thing will never come back 100% and the relationship will never again be the way it was before.
What you might be doing right now is trying really hard to get back together because you feel hurt and rejected. But let me tell you, when you do get him back things will never be the same. You will have gotten what you wanted (the challenge of getting him to come back to you) and then you will realize that it is not worth it. That you cannot forget his cheating. And you just spent all of that time and energy for nothing.
Believe me I know how that goes. I would just let him move on and you should do the same. You deserve to be in a relationship where there is trust.
2007-02-01 06:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't be sitting around the house waiting for him to call. If he's going to let a couple of other guys come in between a 5 year relationship, then you know where his priorities are.
About the other girl just being a friend of a friend----------Doubt it!
He isn't getting back with you because he's already hooked up with someone else. Why else would SHE answer his phone. It was to let you know he's with her.
Do yourself a favor and move on. Wrap yourself up in a project, a class, your friends, maybe a short get away this weekend. Don't waste your time on him. It's over.....
2007-02-01 06:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't know what you got till it's gone . is a good lesson. when ever he is being bad tell him you are going to leave and find somebody who aprieciates you more. he's thinking only about himself and sex with other woman. he may care about you but. ignorant about how your feelings are. most men have a tendancy it seems to cheat because of there own insecurity. hense the whole do i still got it routine, hanging out with ''the guys'' who also want to get laid. he is obviously influenced by them. i've had my heart ripped out and handed to me befor by a six year relationship, she left letters day after day that she was coming back and it dragged me right over the coals. and the worst part is that we have a small child together so expect the worse. i've made it my passion from now on not to be controlled buy jealousy any more, if you wanna cheat then just leave , i myself just listened to'' what it takes'' by arosmith and other sappy break up songs and cried it out of my system,and ate lots of canalope i felt much better afterwords.
2007-02-01 06:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to tell u, but ur man (ex) is ready to move on and he really doesnt want u back even if ur willing to forgive him. the hints of a girl answering his phone, going out with his buddies, and telling u he feels bad cuz he hurt u and thats why he cant get back is all signs of him not wanting to be with u anymore. u just need to find somebody that can appreciate u for who u are and what ur worth. see, its jerks like him that give us good guys all a bad name!
2007-02-01 06:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by oc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you that he wouldn't go back out with you because he hurt you and couldn't accept it, then what does it matter? It's obviously over. Move on and find a man that won't hurt you and that wants to be with you and only you.
2007-02-01 06:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Moosha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on! all the damage that is done will just make it worse latter on.
I know this is the hardest answer to accept but find someone that you don't have this kind of baggage with, you will be happier in the long run.
2007-02-01 06:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some thing that he said he can not with you because he hurt you are just excuse to leave you... I'm sorry to say that but are you sure he is not like you? and doesn't have any relation with girls? I suggest you to leave him. really. It was just a friendly advice... wish you best wishes honey!
2007-02-01 07:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by star b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get checked for STD's and get on with your life. He's trying to tell you in a subtle way that he doesn't want you anymore.
2007-02-01 06:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he doesn't want to be with you. Maybe he did cheat and maybe he didn't but either way it goes it sounds like he wants to move on. I suggest moving on yourself. Find someone who is wanting to be with you. Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't!
2007-02-01 06:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋