Just want to know your opinion. I graduated from college in the spring so I had to buy a graduation cap/gown/hood. OK it was just undergraduate so not really special but still it was kind of expensive and since my younger sister attends the same college that I graduated from after I graduated I gave it to her, telling her when she graduates she can wear it instead of having to buy a new one. Anyways I haven't been home since the summer but a good friend of mine who is graduating this coming spring asked if he could borrow my cap and gown. I said of course, and asked my mother if she knew where it was. After looking in both my closet and my sister's, she told me she didn't see it. I asked my sister where it was, and she said "Oh, I think I threw it away." and sure enough without even asking me they both decided to throw it away. Well I was pretty upset but they don't see what the big deal is. Is it a big deal? When they first told me I was so upset I got hot all over but should I be?
2007-02-01 06:38:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can see your fustration, the regalia ment a lot to you. You did give it to your sister and it was hers to do with as she saw fit. You should have kept it yourself to be assured nothing happened to it. Consider it a lesson learned and don't dwell on it you have a whole life awaiting you and this will not be the biggest loss in your life. I know it hurt you but sometimes poeple can be crule, my own father didn't attend my college graduation.
Let it go.
2007-02-01 07:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a tuff one. It is very odd that they would "throw it away". Who throws expensive things away? Usually they get donated or resold. But, that is beside the point. I would have to say that I would be really hurt also. Getting through college is an accomplishment that you and your family should be proud of. The fact that your sister will be graduating soon and needing the cap and gown, just makes the whole situation even more weird. If your sister threw it away on her own, without your mothers knowledge, that would make more sense. She could possibly be jealous of you and struggling in college herself. But, the fact that your mom was also responsible for throwing it away is just puzzling. You have a right to be upset, but I don't know what good it will do you. It is probably best that you sit down and talk to your mom and sister when you are calm and tell them how much it hurt you. Explain to them that the fact that they are acting like it is no big deal, makes you feel even worse.
2007-02-01 14:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by reacting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel, but when you give something away it is the right of the recepient to do whatever she wishes with the gift. Under law, you can make conditional gifts, but you probably did not do so. Not a nice thing to do, quite ungrateful, but it was her right after you gave it away.
2007-02-01 15:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you gave it to her to use, it was a bit incensitive for them to toss it without first asking you, but other than lending it out again, what would you ever do with it? I would say speak you mind once, then let it go. Hell, I skipped the ceremony when I got my B.S., just bought the tassel. I was done and knew it, that's all that mattered to me.
2007-02-01 14:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel, ex wives threw out family pictures, My Queen's Commision, and several of my dilomas, degrees and certificates getting everything relaced is impossible
2007-02-01 14:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sid B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of this. I would certainly be saddened also. Maybe it is just a case of them not realizing the meaning of the items to you. I would make sure and express to them how you feel and see how they respond
2007-02-01 14:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. A Elashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister threw out your property without asking. Yeah, I'd be a little angry about it.
2007-02-01 15:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you gave it to them so I beleive that they saw it as thier property and felt they could do as they wished with it. It may have been rude of them. It may have been a stupid waste of money but I wouldn't let it become an issue that divides you and your family. Its just some clothes after all
2007-02-01 14:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by mystraven85 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
since you left it at home, it became the property of your parents as that's their house....I know, I know, that's not what you wanted to hear....That's the adult in me talking.
but no, mom/sister shouldntve thrown it out...She should foot the bill when your sister graduates....better check to make sure anything else you value ain't left there---take it with you!
Who knows what really happened to it, Sis couldve dressed up in it for a wild halloween party...or maybe mom did...!
2007-02-01 14:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it was really THAT important to you, then you would have taken it with you instead of leaving it behind...on top of the fact that you GAVE it to your sister...it wasn't your's anymore to lend....it was her's to do with as she pleased...
2007-02-01 14:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋