My dad has been with this woman for over 15 years now and I've lived with my own siblings and that half-brother for that long. Thing is, the half-brother seems to have no respect for us. He never seems to think about the consequences of his actions might be or what he makes us feel like. He's 24, doesn't work, goes to University, had psychological problems for a long time... Anyways, he smokes in the bathroom in the basement and his mom lets him do so and also give him $100 per week... And if we talk to her, her only answer is "I don't want argument". And if we talk to him, he makes everything worse. Any advice or suggestion?
2007-02-01 06:37:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok, my two younger siblings are working and he's not, my father tries to avoid him as much as possible and how he disrespect us: listen to his COMPUTER movies on the TV at 1am and some of the people living here start working at 7am, leaves our clean clothes where he smokes so OUR clothes smell cigarette, and stuff like that... oh, he has no car, takes his mom's and she pays the gas and reparations for things HE brakes
2007-02-01 06:45:40 · update #1
I'm not sure how old you are .... if you're older than your 24 year old half-brother ... perhaps it would be easier to simply move out of the house and live in your own home where you make the RULES!
If you're younger or in your teens ... then I would strongly suggest that you take this issue up with your Dad and NOT with his new wife (girlfriend). Try to explain to your father, in a respectful manner, that you find it unfair how many more privileges your half-brother has than you do. Talk to your Dad about how all this makes you feel. It would be up to him to speak to his significant other about making changes with respect to their son.
I have a half-brother who is 13 years younger than I am and have always looked at him as someone to protect to some extent. My relationship with him is good BUT my sister ... who is 11 years younger than our half-brother .... resents his arrival in our family to this day! She just can't let go of the fact that he took away her "baby" status in the family. It's sad when this happens in a family.
We all have to try to communicate our feelings to one another and not hold grudges. I would also suggest that if you have the option of living with your mother or another relative ... perhaps you could try that for a while. Just remember ... the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. All that glitters isn't always gold!
Good luck with approaching your Dad and hopefully he'll be able to take some steps to make things right in your family. And if it means that you plan to move out ... best wishes for that too ... at least you'll feel accomplished and will have made it on your own unlike your half-brother.
2007-02-01 06:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think Q always get answer´s , so I think rather than you being upset about all this have a family meeting , good to have one maybe every week . helps to clear the air when there is a problem , maybe you could suggest a Q box , a box with a hole on top . one person has to be chair person , when you have a Q you write down & pop the Q into the box . example , why dose my brother get $ 100 a week for doing nothing & we only get ----- I would like a new mobile . if I save up my money can I buy it . things like that . the box only gets opened at the end of the week and the chair person reads out the Q , and the final word comes from the chair person. Of course you discuss things much better than keeping things all bottled up. another thing if you don´t show respect to other people you won´t recieve it back
2007-02-01 06:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is acting this way because he knows he can get away with it, there are no ground rules, 24, i hope he doesn't have a gf, if so i feel sorry for her or maybe she's just as sorry as him. anyhow as long as he keeps getting away with things and the are no consequences to his actions, nothing is going to change... you should talk to your dad,you are his child and he should listen to what you are feeling. I don't know how old you are, but maybe if you are old enough to work... go get a job, start saving up money and set some goals for yourself, when you are 18 you can move out and not have to struggle and depend on someone else to make you happy... make a life for yourself and be sure you take care of you, your half-brother is a lost cause, only he can really change things and he has to want to change. But do talk to your dad, maybe he could start playing the role of being the man of the house and setting some rules. However this turns out for you, Good Luck.
2007-02-01 06:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I'm guessing younger than him? If I were you, I would be jealous cause this loser gets to do whatever he wants and he gets $100 a week. I wish someone gave me $100 week for smoking in the bathroon. You can't do anything about it though. Your step mom is doing her son harm by continuing this behavior. Just hang in there, study hard, and when you get a nice scholarship to go to college, you can leave the house for good. Good luck!
2007-02-01 06:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to confront your dad and tell him about how bad you half-brother is disrespecting you and your siblings. Because if you don't he may just continue this awkward behavior.
Your step-mother also needs to stop babying him because if she doesn't the only message that this is sending to your half-brother that it's okay if he stays at home until he is let's say 50 and still be bumming off of your step-mother.
2007-02-01 07:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by babygirlseck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
........Dad......mom James.....Karl......Rae Is my diagram above proper? So, the daddy had James with some different person and the mum had Rae with some different person, and Karl grow to be from both one among them. That mean James and Rae are quite step-siblings. i don't understand no matter if that is a criminal offense to marry the doorstep-sibling, regardless of the indisputable fact that it should be weird and wonderful to hearken to that the couples who're married are quite step-siblings. *word: i take advantage of classes between the names as areas because when I previewed it, all of it clumped jointly.
2016-12-03 08:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Nanny 911. Doesn't seem like you can do anything. Just stay out of his path. Have you tried talking to your dad?
2007-02-01 06:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by help*w*answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who can blame him? Poor guy, he's only half of a brother.
Seriously, I would kick his *** out, except for the fact that he's going to school. However, if he is unwilling to abide by the house rules, he needs to leave.
2007-02-01 06:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tikimaskedman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out or buck up and make sure you document his actions for the residual smoke cancer claim.
2007-02-01 06:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about it with your dad or mom or whatever maybe get things worked out with him or talk to the authoriys(mom & dad) and make things fair you should atleast get 100$ like him or move out and live with grandparents
2007-02-01 06:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Austin(a.k.a lp #1 fan) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋