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so i've been friends w/ this girl for a couple of yrs..and we r really close friends, and just recently she asked how i honestly felt towards her, cuz this question was on her mind a lot lately..so i told her that i love her...and she was completely speechless, like in a good way..so she has a b/f right now and that's y i didn't tell her yet, but since she asked i had no choice lol...this happened two days ago and it happened on yahoo messenger..so how long should i wait b4 i confront her in person about what we talked about cuz i don't want to push her into anything cuz she has a lot to think about, and what should i say to her when i do confront her?..just wondered what u guys may think

2007-02-01 06:36:13 · 16 answers · asked by jared 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

she livs in the same town i do and we've been really good friends...when she signed off of yahoo she said "love you!!!!!" and i said "love you!!" and then she put "good deal" and i put "def" so i think that's a good sign

2007-02-01 06:52:58 · update #1

and like i can't see myself with any other girl...she is everything i want and more..everytime i'm around her it's like i'm falling in love w/ her all over again

2007-02-01 06:54:38 · update #2

16 answers

let here decide what she wants to do don't tell her nothing she already knows who you feel.

2007-02-01 06:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by *BooTz* 3 · 0 0

This is hard because you don't see the person's true reaction when you say these things in a message. I would ask her about it straight away because the longer you leave it the harder it is going to get.

Don't worry that she has a boyfriend. No, it's not right, but you have been friends for a couple of years, and hey, you love this girl and you have to look out for your life.

When you do comfront her, don't pressure her, tell her the most important thing is that the two of you should always be friends. But DO NOT BE the other man, because that just cheapens everything you feel. If she wants to be with you she will dump her boyfriend first. Otherwise it is strikly friendship with a bit of a flirt thrown in to let her know what she didn't chose!

Goodluck

2007-02-01 06:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0 0

Well since she is the first to ask you how you felt then she just needed your confirmation on something she was suspicious about. She might have feelings for you and she might not. I would not confront her. Don't worry becuase if she wants you she will breakup with her boyfriend and ask you out. You will know when it happens. If she likes you back it could take sometime for her to make her move but becuase of the situation she is in now, I believe that she should be the one to make the move. For the time being I would just go on being friends with her and if she never breaksup with her boyfriend then it will be your choice to stay friends with her or to cut off the friendship. good luck.

2007-02-01 06:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lena 2 · 0 0

Well honey the decision to tell her that you love her I think wasn't very smart. She has someone. And if she didn't return the "I love you" that means she loves him. So she doesn't feel the same way, it's obvious. Don't bother confronting her, you told her over Messenger you don't know if she was speechless in a good way or not she just didn't want to hurt your feelings. So move on babe, the feelings are so not mutual. Proof? She's with him. Good luck sweetie, move on!

2007-02-01 06:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0 0

You should just stay her friend until she and her current boyfriend break up. Then you can remind her that you love her. If she comes to you complaining about her boyfriend then you could start the conversation again about how much you love her.
With Valentines Day coming maybe you could give her a small gift. If you know what kind of music she likes you could give her a CD. If she lives far away maybe you could send her an e-card, but don't make it to mushy.
Good luck.

2007-02-01 06:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0 0

I think that's good you didn't lie to her! She might be thinking about you in the same way. I mean, I can't imagine her asking you how you feel about her if she's not hoping for this kind of response!
I think you should call her up, tell her that you meant it but that it wouldn't interfere in your friendship if she wasn't feeling the same way. Maybe ask her why she asked you that in the first place, did she have an idea?!!
Good luck!

2007-02-01 06:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Confront her right away. Tell her that u have loved her for a long time & that u would love to be her man. tell her to take some time to think about it, give her a week, the most, to think about it. dont push!!!

2007-02-01 06:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Serena 1 · 0 0

Be Real and you'll be fine. You waited 2 years, you said what you wanted to say, now don't push it.... If she's with someone else you got to give her a minute to figure out what she wants to do. Go with the flow and keep your options open... Keep looking to meet other people while pursuing her. You don't want to fully commit to her if she can't / won't commit to you.

2007-02-01 06:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by The Answerer 2 · 0 0

u should do it asap. the longer u wait the less time u have 2 explain how u feel. b4 she completly stops talking 2 u

2007-02-01 06:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by musicislife808 2 · 0 0

I would give her 3 days to a week to think about it, then tell her you still want to be friends regardless of how she answers, but you want to know if she would drop her boyfriend for you.

2007-02-01 06:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by supertop 7 · 0 0

Wait about a week or so, just give her some space to think about it then if she seems stressed when you ask her,,,,just back off some....she will eventually come to you.

2007-02-01 06:39:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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