I'm going to be maid of honor at my bestfriend's wedding in July and I have no clue where to start or what to do. Plus, she lives in Florida and I'm in Texas. Any pointers? I'm not good at planning and I'm afraid I'll ruin her wedding.
2007-02-01 06:34:41 · 11 answers · asked by Cricket 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My maid and matron of honors both lived in Nebraska while I was living in Michigan. Since we weren't in the same area, I flew down to see them so we could go dress shopping together for my gown and their gowns. The only thing I really asked of them was to order their dresses by a specific time, pick out what jewelry and shoes they wanted to wear, attend the wedding rehearsal, and help me the day of the wedding.
Since I didn't have bridal shower, they arranged with my mom to have a mini shower in one of their hotel rooms when they arrived in Michigan for the wedding. I was so surprised and happy. All my attendants and immediate family were there and even my close friend who lived in the area. On my wedding day they helped me get dressed, help with my make-up, held my flowers and rings, fixed my train, helped me change into my going away clothes, and transfered my wedding gown and accessories to my home.
Neither one of them would consider themselve a great planner, but none of that matter. They definately didn't ruin my wedding, but made it more enjoyable. I really didn't ask my bridal party to help plan my wedding because all I wanted of them was to share in my joy. I'm sure your friend will let you know if there is anything she would like for you to do. My suggestion is just periodically call her and ask her how the plans are coming along (that's what mine did). You should also ask her if there is anything she would like for you to do. I'm sure your friend would appreciate the kind gesture.
2007-02-01 08:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will do just fine!! Go over to a book store and buy a "Maid of Honor for Dummies" Book or if you have no money, go sit and read one. You're responsible for the Bachelorette and possibly the Bridal shower party. Not sure how you'll take care of that from Texas- maybe visit a month earlier and try to get some of these things accomplished?! Good luck to you and no worries, just ask her what you can do to help!! She's obviously your best friend- so just talk to her!!
2007-02-01 14:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you hunny! Why do they call it a honor..? Its more like a punishment! LOL! As far as I am concerned... your only duties are: 1. being as excited as the bride (having those fast paced brainstorming conversations, that include mostly giggles) 2. Be as happy as the bride and make her happier (remind her all the time that she is getting married and her hubby is amazing) 3.be sympathetic... (there is sooo much she has to do, and decide. Just tell her what you think, and tell her you understand how much work she has to do) 4. And, last and not least... tell her how beautiful she will look, and how amazing its going to be, and how great she is doing at all the planning. The maid of honor is the brides backbone, and you sound like you will be great! P.S Your speech must make her laugh... and cry.
2007-02-01 15:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Louise 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been a maid of honor twice and a reg. bridesmaid twice. One of the girls I was a MOH for lived only four hours away, but it was enough to make the job difficult. I did everything I could for her and offered to help out, but she was very understanding that the distance made it hard to be there for her through every little detail. Just make yourself available. It's your "duty" to throw her a shower/ bachelorette party, but if any of the other bridesmaids live closer to her, just ask them for help with planning. If not, do as much as you can, but the bride knew when she asked you how far away you lived! Don't stress too much... wait till you're the one getting married. :)
2007-02-01 15:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by heatre24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your her best friend you should know her well enough to know what she likes and does not like. I was just maid of honor Jan. and I love to plan parties.
Plan them from your heart and you'll be fine....
Do what the bride wants wants not everyone else.
Your there to help her with what she needs and to keep her calm when it might be hard for her. Your there to be her support/backbone
2007-02-01 14:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax sweetie. Everything will be great. You might want to check out the attendant duties guide at www.customweddingsolutions.com. They have a very good list of who should do what and a free planning checklist to help get you started.
2007-02-01 22:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to Knot.com
it tells you the duties of a maid of honor and should give you a starting point and some tips
2007-02-01 14:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not ruin her wedding. Relax
Just ask her what she would like you to help her with?
Be honest with her when making important dis-cessions. (like her wedding dress, Bridesmaid dress and Flowers etc.) Just be there for her when she needs you.
Thanks
Rosina's
http://ca.groups.yahoo.com/group/Couples_ValentinesDayBall
2007-02-01 14:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rosina's Bridal & Decor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down.
Find out what SHE wants from you. The main thing you are there for is support and so she doesn't go nuts on her big day.
:)
2007-02-02 12:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to help her get dressed, hold her flowers make sure she has everything she needs for the big day and throw a bridal shower
2007-02-01 14:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋