He will tease me about something he knows bothers me. He hurts my feelings and then apologizes while we have sex. It seems so manipulative.
2007-02-01 06:03:44 · 21 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have expereinced a "dry spell" and I think it made me date less than what I deserve...
2007-02-01 06:16:25 · update #1
Sounds as if he has the makings of an abusive partner. Actually,he is abusive already. He is control oriented. It will not get better and it IS manipulative. When you truly get tired of it, you will be asking yourself if he is worth keeping. The fact that you even asked the question says that you are having thoughts about ending the relationship. But people like him,bullies,have egos so if you try to end the relationship,prepare for a volley of insults.
As insensitive as people like him are to your feelings are,they have the nerve to expect people to be sensitive to their feelings. Because people like that get their feelings hurt so easily, they know what to say to hurt others.If you could get him to talk about it,I'll bet he came from that type of background because that is 'learned'behavior..
2007-02-01 06:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This hot/cold teasing pulls on the emotions a little harder than a normal relationship, and actually bonds you more closely together. It is manipulative, that is true. I'd say that he should be more sensitive about your insecurities. If he wants to tease you about things that don't matter much to you, that is kinda fun (and you should do it back!), but if he keeps hitting you where it hurts, you need to get away from him. Things will only get more vicious, and you'll become a little more evil and manipulative before you are finally finished with him.
2007-02-01 06:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time putting up with someone your not happy with.. There are too many available guys in the world to stick with someone your not happy with. And I mean c'mon of course hes going to apologize while having sex.. hes getting what he wants so hes going to tell you whatever he thinks you want to hear. Manipulative is the key word.. Don't let yourself be overrun.
2007-02-01 06:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 08:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using you. if he hurts your feelings and then you have sex, that is the only reason he is apologizing. next time he does it, cut him off. don't have sex, don't even kiss him hello or good bye. make him think about what he did, if he continues to act like that, you need to leave him. you do not deserve to be treated like that. if you stay, you will need lots of therapy in the future. good luck.
2007-02-01 06:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by deeshair 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is only saying sorry so he can get some. He seems to be having some problems respecting you. If he loves you, then he should love and respect you all the time,and he isn't doing that. I would sit him down and give him a scare! should bring him around!
2007-02-01 06:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by pippy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Freind,
I used to be in the exact same position that you are in right now, and let me tell you that you should get rid of him right now, cause he will only get worse as time goes on. If he doesn't respect you now, then he never will. Get Out! Get Out! GET OUT!! Let me know how that goes for you.
David Hicks
100 Mile House, B.C.
2007-02-01 06:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by injun2free 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to treat yourself better than that! I can't believe you even have to ask that question. You answered your own question, it is manipulative, among other things. MOVE ON!
Find someone that values you, like you deserve. Good luck!
2007-02-01 06:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by NeNe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must think you perform better after he's hurt you and tried to make you feel better by apologizing.
My advice?? Kick him to the curb. He's a manipulative jerk.
2007-02-01 06:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better get out of this relationship while you still can. Things will only get worse the longer you are with him.
2007-02-01 06:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋