check up to find that my disease has spread on down my spine. Doc says I could go 5 - 15 years before surgery would be needed again. I haven't told my husband. This one was so hard on him. Is it wrong for me not to tell him? Everything from this surgery is on track and doing well. Should I tell him I might have to do it again in a different place in the future? It went from my neck to my thorasic (spelling?) spine. He knows I have degenerative disc disease but does he need to know it has already spread?
2007-02-01 06:02:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have been married 16 years. I see the point about honesty but if I don't have to have the surgery, why worry him now?
2007-02-01 06:43:54 · update #1
I would tell him right away. I understand that the surgery you just had was hard on him. Imagine what it's going to be like if you wait until your next surgery to tell him. He'll be hurt and upset at you for not telling him sooner.
2007-02-01 06:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to get some St. Ives Apricot Scrub for Blemish and Blackhead Control. It is oil free and has salicylic acid. You can get it at any Wal-Mart or most drug stores. I have been using it for 8 years and I never have any problems with blackheads. But, the mistake that most people make when using these kinds of scrubs and cleansers is making it a chore. If you just use a little to scrub your face with everytime you take a shower instead of using soap it will really work. Inevitably though you will still get the occasional pimple. When this happens rub a little bit of toothpaste (yes I said toothpaste) on the affected area before you go to bed and wash it away in the morning before going to work/school. Be sure to use the paste kind though and not the gel kind. I really hope this helps you out, Good Luck.
2016-05-24 02:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Margaret 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, that is what married people do. If he finds out later that you knew and did not tell him, he will hold resentment and distrust for your marriage and it could lead to him leaving you. At least if you tell him now, he can assist you in supporting you and loving you. He must to have stayed by your side through all this,.Trust his love and tell him.
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2007-02-01 06:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its important to keep an open and honest relationship going with him. Especially because you are going to need his help in the future
2007-02-01 06:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your family about this. Don't let them be shocked in another 5 years. I am glad that every thing is going well for you at this time, but you have got to keep them updated.
2007-02-01 06:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋