my 5 year old is being bullied by my step son who is 5 as well. What should i do to stop this.?

Answer 1

Try separating him by standing him in the corner or making him sit in a room without any other kids, when he does this. Let him know that if he can't be nice, he'll have to sit by himself. Be consistent with it. Make sure that he other kids know to stay away from him. A general time limit is one minute for every year in age. When you let him get up, ask him why he's in trouble before you let him go. If he gets it tell him that's right and ask him if he's going to do it again. If he doesn't get it, tell him and make him sit down for another couple of minutes. When it's all over, give him a hug to let him know that it's over and send him on his way. Spanking in this situation can only enforce bullying. Since he is so young and you are a step mom, it can be difficult. Don't give in. Good luck!! :)

Answer 2

I would sit with your step son and ask him what is bothering him and why does he feel the need to keep bullying your son? If he doesn't open up to you maybe you should speak with your husband and have him talk to his son about it and let the little boy know that this is unacceptable behavior. Families don't fight with each other. If the step son feels like your son gets more attention than he does then maybe you should set aside one night a week to do something special with him alone. Just an idea. Most likely I think it is for attention, he feels left out somewhere, somehow. Maybe he thinks his father is paying more attention to his step brother than him and is jealous of this, kids will react to things like jealousy and hurt in frustration because they don't have the words to say hay I am feeling left out or sad or mad or whatever emotion.
Another tip would be to stop him when he is bullying your son and say, what are you feeling right now, help him to label these emotions to better express them.
I hope this helps
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Five year olds seem to go through horrible phases while they're establishing their own identities. If I were you, I would closely monitor both boys and intervene when the bullying starts. Explain to both of them how you expect them to behave ahead of time and set limits. They'll need easy to follow rules like no name calling or no pushing/hitting/spitting so that there's little room for interpretation. Next explain to them what the consequences will be when they break a rule like a five minute timeout for the first time each day and then if they do it again then make the consequence worse. Do be consistent with your discipline. Don't forget to praise them and even reward them when they follow the rules the whole day - like a special dessert or a new coloring book or some other treat. I like the nanny shows on tv for creative discipline ideas but the most important thing is your consistency with the rules and the consequences.

Answer 4

Teach the bullied one self defence like this

www.kravmaga.co.uk or ninjitsu.

Plus go and rent out a move called 'Cool Runnings'

Look for the mirror scene where the tough guy drags the bullied wussy one into the toilets after he is being bullied and asks him what he sees in the mirror. The bo says junior.


The tough guy says...

I see a

bad *** mother who dont take no **** from no one...


then makes the bullied guy say it over and over with more conviction till fired up, blood boiling then the tough guy sets his creation striaght onot the bullies before it wears off... the kid picks a fight and wins, and wins respect.


Try the self defence lessons first...then something like the mirror scene for the psychological side of it.

Answer 5

I would try speaking with the step son's father first and come up with a plan to deal with the step son. You don't want to offend the natural parent. If speaking with the child doesn't work I would try to enroll both boys in a physical program where they will be around new children and be forced to go to each other for familiarity. Around all the new kids, they will feel close to each other. I am a Kid's Karate instructor and find that such programs are very beneficial to you kids. It gives them focus and direction. Good luck.

Answer 6

When my children or my children and their friends do this, I sit them on the couch next to one another and make them hold hands. I tell them that the person that is holding their hand is their friend and that this person loves them. Sometimes we forget who are friends and who the people that love us are. I then make them sit there holding hands until they can look each other in the eye and say "I'm sorry. I love you." They have to mean it and they have to forgive the other. It has ALWAYS worked for me.

This is something that you have to supervise. You need to play a part in it. Soon enough just asking them if they need to sit together and hold hands is enough to remind them about acceptable and unacceptable behavior.

If there is hitting I approach it a bit differently. I remind the children that smart people use their words to express themselves. Then I ask them if they need help with words to express what they are really feeling because no one understands what hitting is trying to say.

Good luck!

Answer 7

This is really unfair on your child, You must speck to his father to stop anymore bulling and make it clear the you wont accept it to the father and his child.Your child must come first and there may be issue that your step son finds hard to deal with and this is his way of coping, this is not to justify his actions.

Answer 8

you could get a child mentor from a local high school (kind of like big brother big sister or w/e). if the kid has someone nice and cool to look up to, then they wont do that sort of stuff. check with the high school to see if they offer it. i know mine does. a few of my friends did it last year with under-privileged kids or kids without a father/role model.
or... you could get that super nanny or whatever that tv show is to come and discipline him.

Answer 9

Kick him in the shin (step son - obviously) - HARD! - he won't do it again! Bullies only understand one language!

Answer 10

Have you spoken to your hubby about his sons behaviour?
I would, and then ask him to have a chat with his son, and then get together as a family to iron out any problems.