We cannot agree on a name, she wants one that I don't like, the one I like my mother in law doesn't like.

Question

How or what should be the deciding factor in the baby's name? They both say that because I automatically get the last, it shouldn't be up to me to have say in the first and middle names. What should I do?

Answer 1

Well, first of all you need to get everybody else out of the picture--it should be the mother and father's decision only. Pick a name you both like together and don't tell ANYONE til after the baby is born.

Answer 2

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!! First of all you helped make the baby so you have just as much right as the mother carrying your baby. Second of the Mother-in- law has no say so in it that is between you and the the mother to be! And the name you do like does the mother to be like it? If so case closed! The mother in law has no right saying no not that name I don't like it she should be praying for a healthy grandchild! Best of luck and have some balls to your mother in law and wife. It's something you both created together and there will be more to babies to come and that is something special for you two together and if its your first. After my first I told my Husband the next one if its a boy I will let you name it all on your own. Well I should of never said that because we have 4 boys and 1 girl. Tyler David, Austin Joseph, Zachariah Theodore, Jacob Lynn, Madison Vada Anne Park. All names have the Bible names either 1st or Middle and Madison was named after my late Grandmother I picked the middle out and we both didt the first together and agreed together and told family what we choice and that was final if they liked it or not Marriage is between you two only!! Best of Luck and God Bless you bothand the new one!

Answer 3

First of all, the only people who should be involved in the naming of the child is you and your wife. You need to leave everyone else out of it. If you start letting other people dictate what names they like and don't like, you will never find a name that you both like. This is *your* child, not theirs. You don't want to go with a name that you really don't like because you are "outnumbered". You may regret that later on.

Part of marriage is comprimise. You need to talk things out and decide what will work best for both of you. If your families do not like the name that you pick, oh well. They have plenty of time to get used to it.

I suggest you and your wife both make a list of names that you like. Then trade lists and each of you select your favorite names. Perhaps one could be the first and the other the middle name.

Answer 4

Automatically get the last name??? says who its not the given everyone thinks it is today that children automatically get daddys last name, my son is named after his paternal line for his first name (there are no number attached to that just seems to be a common theme) and the last part of his last name. I'm adopted and it was important to me that my adopted family name not end with my generation because there were no male children so my son has my adopted dad's middle name for his own middle name and my adopted last name is the first part of his hyphonated last name. My ex husband and i both decided that when our son is older he can choose the last name he wants to keep or change his name all together and we will pay for it when hes old enough to understand what hes doing. And you never know oncethe baby is here none of the names either of you might not be worth having once you see the baby.

Answer 5

FIRST of all it's NOT your mother- in- laws decision. It's between the mother and father. The two of you should sit down and write down all the names you each like. Go through them and decide which one you both like, what will sound good w/your last name and etc. Then DON'T TELL ANYONE till it's on the birth certificate. If they don't like it then they can come up with their own little pet/nick name.

Answer 6

We had the same problem. the name thing anyhow, the mother in law thing is a wholeeeeeeee nother story! Anyhow..LOL, we couldn't agree on a name for our second child, so we let our oldest pick his brothers name. We told him all the names we were thinking of, and he chose Joshua. He loved being involved but the down side was that after having Joshua and his older brother James, it didn't make sense to switch to another letter................. now we are know has the house of the four J's !!

Answer 7

My dad made fun of every name my husband and I picked out!! I decided it was time to stop telling daddy what we were thinking. You should be able to have a say in what the baby is named but I think sometimes only the women decide. I have heard from alot of dads that they had nothing to do with the babys name. My husband and I were filling out the baby book the other day when I wrote the name in the book he looked at it and looked at me and said "oh that's how we are spelling it?!" I wrote it in pen so I guess so!!!!! Its up to you and the mamma but you know us women!!!!

Answer 8

You name the kid something both parents like. There has to be something out there. Forget about what the in-law said, she already got the chance to name children. Get a baby names book, that is what my husband and I did. It took us a while to agree, but at least we did. Our daughter was not to keen about the name at first but she loves it now.

Answer 9

Don't give in. It's your baby too. The last name argument is a silly one. I'd like to remind all of you that it is NOT your mother-in-law's baby. She named your wife. It's not her turn. My parents aren't crazy about the name we've picked out either, but that certainly isn't stopping us. Does your wife like the name you picked out? If not, then keep working on names. Wait until you come to one you both like...Unless you're writing this on your laptop in the delivery room or something. In that case, flip a coin. Good luck!

Answer 10

First off, congrats on your new little one! My advice would be to keep your baby names between you and your partner. When others get involved then everyone feels entitled to name YOUR baby which isn't right.
I would suggest you both make a list of names you like, swap the lists and circle the ones you like. Keep doing this back and forth until you can pin down a name. Make sure you tell her that this is YOUR baby too. Good luck, and congrats!