ok i llove my bf and when i told him i was pregnate he was sooo happy!he told everyone he is going to be a daddy!i got locked up for running away and was gone for 2 months..i know he was cheating on me but i cant prove it!i would call him sumtimez and we would start fighting he would say f**k you and the baby and its probly not his anyway!i dont know what to do!sometimes he is happy about having the baby other times he is an ***!my dad just passed and i need his support even more than ever!i dont know what to do!my mom is trying to make me get an abortion but she doesnt understan i love him and i dont want an abortion.HELP!!!
2007-02-01 05:57:39 · 77 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to love you & the baby & he can be apart of yalls life but if he is going to be an *** then forget about it! If he is being an *** to you then you can go & be a single mother & maybe later on find a good man that will love & take care of both of yall. You need all of the support right now since your father has passed away & if he cant be here for you during this time then do you think he would be there for you & stick with you through other tough times? An abortion might be a good idea since you are so young but if you dont want to then I dont think they can make you. Just do whatever you think is best & keep praying & every thing will turn out ok. You just gotta be strong you are fixing to be a mother! I hope this helps! Good Luck & God Bless )
2007-02-01 06:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! 1st if you do not want an abortion, dont have one. 2nd, at 15, you most certainly need all the help you can get. It sounds to me like this boy is full of crap. I would not look to him to be any positive support for you or your baby. You have alot to do and not much time to do it in. Instead of worrying about proving if this guy cheated on you, you should be worrying about how you will feed, shelter, and support yourself and this baby that is on the way. The baby needs to be your #1 priority if you are keeping it. And if you are only happy to be pregnant because you think you love the father, what if things dont work out with the 2 of you...will you still want the baby? There are millions of couples that would love to have a child but can't. Do not keep a baby as a solution to your relationship problems, because a baby will not make him be faithful to you. So forget about him and think about you and that baby.
2007-02-01 06:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by lile79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a real jerk. Have the baby, maybe your mom will help you out until you are a little older or you could even put the baby up for adoption. Don't have an abortion though. If this guy really loved you, he would talk to you like that. Do you really want this baby to have to grow up with a dad that thinks that way of him or her? You are looking for support in a guy who is too immature to be there for you. He doesn't even know what he is doing with his life- he has run away, is telling you that he does not trust you, has cheated on you, and has spoken to you in a way that a man should never speak to any woman, much less someone that is carrying his baby. Please tell me that you are a stronger person than this... you are just setting yourself up for a lifetime of turmoil and disappointment if you stick with him. Good luck. You can do it.
2007-02-01 06:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think it is almost to late for an abortion and its a bad idea. I have a friend who did that and crys all the time and that was 3 years ago. But If you want to keep the baby. Then keep it. But if you don't want the baby I know there is a nice family out there how would want them. Plus babies get adopted first. As for the father if hes cheating DUMP HIm!! He may be happy hes a father but he is clearly not ready for a true relationship. And please don't stay with him for the baby because that never works out. But if you do choose to keep the child and dumb the bf, there is someone out their who will like you and love you and the baby. You just need to find that right person. I hope things work out for you.
2007-02-01 06:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure where you are located but a lot of states now will not let your mother have any say in what you do about your body. With that said she may or may not be able to force you to have an abortion. You love your boyfriend, but it seems that he is no good for you.
He was cheating on you but you want him in your life? Why is that chances are that he will do it again.
Personally I think you are to young to be having a child and that your child would be better off being given up for adoption and taken care of my responsible adults with the means to care for a child.
Have you even considered how you might care for this baby, will you continue to go to school or stay home and take care of the baby. You need to think about many things and then try and make an adult decision.
2007-02-01 06:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that your mom is right. Honey you are only 15 and although you may think that you are an adult (because you are doing adult things) you are not. I was in the same situation when I was 16 (minus the locked out) and I thought that I was in love too. I decided to listen to my mom and I got an abortion. I am 31 now with a 11 yr old son and engaged to be married (not to the guy that I was with 15 yrs ago). For a while I regret doing it (not because of him, but b/c of my own feelings) but shortly after I realized that I did the BEST thing for myself. It's tough being a parent and especially a "single" parent. Sweetheart you are so young and you have your entire life to look forward too don't be foolish. I'm not your mom, but just realize when you become a mother the partying, staying out late with friends, etc... ends. And sometimes it's no fun watching your friends go out and you are stuck in the house taking care of a baby. I am not saying that being a mother is bad. I love my son, and would trade him for ANYTHING... but I want you to realize it's tough.. Give yourself a chance to live your life before you bring another life in this world to live.
2007-02-01 06:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, having sex with a minor is a Federal Crime, regarles if he's a minor or not, to the law is called Statutory Rape. Depending on your state laws, he can serve up to 5 years in State or Federal prision, depending on whether the judge considers it a misdeminor or a felony. Neither you or your parents can't prevent from pressing charges on him, if it comes to the DA's ears, he will press charges againts him with no pity.
Secondly, you should be responsible for your own actoins and stick to the reproccusions. We all make mistakes at some point in our lives and we all pay a price for them, some times that price may be for a short period of time, some other it's for the rest of our lives. Aborting the baby is not gonna solve a problem but may cause a new and bigger problem as this may affect you in the long run, having a consience of guilt for the rest of your life, as aborting is ''killing'' the baby. My suggestions is to have the baby, and you become the next succesful single mother, like many have done it alone. It may be hard first, but you'll be proud of raising a child on your own.
2007-02-01 06:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by RSB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds terrible baby girl, but you know what? Things will work out the way they are supposed to. Don't abort your baby you can hang in there and if not you can always give the baby to a family who'd want it. Things are hard right now and they will be so make sure you're prepared for it. Don't forget you guys are both very young so of course you guys will end up arguing and things like that and yeah he'll say things he doesn't mean. I know how guys are so I'm not going to bash your man you might want to try some counseling.i hope all goes well for you, honey stay strong and keep your head up. :)
2007-02-01 06:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tiare J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want an abortion, dont get one. If you do it to please your mom, you may end up hating yourself for the rest of your life. Also, some women who have abortions end up with depression.
Depending on you income level, you may be able to talk to a counselor for free, if you are on medicaid through welfare for example.
Why did you run away? troubles at home? the counselor could help with that too.
Then there is always the idea of adoption.... I know its hard, but at 15, it would be hard, but not necisarilly impossible to raise your baby, that is with FAMILY support. That way you can stay in school. Also, at least in my community, we have a place called NOCAC, (it would be called something different where you live), that will help pay for day care (may even cover all the cost).
welfare would be able to tell you about such places, or a counsel;or as well.
anyways, with adoption some people are now doing it where the mother is still allowed LEGALLY to see the child as he/she grows up.... that way, no ties are severed. Then, you wont always be asking yourself "what if" and your child wont ask "what if"
sammie
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2007-02-01 06:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you how having a baby at 15 will change your whole life way too soon... but that isn't what you want to hear. You want to hear that this guy is going to stand up & take responsibility & be there for you. Reality is... what it is... the signs are all there that both of you really are not ready for this. I'm not saying you should stop loving him. You will always love him. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if you will be happy ALONE raising a baby this young? I really don't think that it is fair to this child to be used as a way to try to keep your BF with you... If you are against abortion - then please think about adoption - simply put, you are not ready to be a mother, especially not alone... My heart is with you!
2007-02-01 06:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋