Long story short: My brother had one night stand with girl and she had a baby. He is a wonderful child and we adore him so. He is 5 now. My brother buys him clothes, jackets, shoes, and takes him out for dinners, entertainment and this all adds up, PLUS he pays for the child support $650. He even has to drive out 2 HOURS to see his kid on weekends.
My family gets to only see our dear nephew 2 DAYS a month. She claims he's always sick, and she wants my brother to come over there to spend time with her and the kid and she makes my brother go on HER job calls. She is using my brother so bad financially and emotionally.
She always threatens legal action to him for NO reason. No one in my family likes her but we give the child everything love attention, care, and buy everything that he needs and he is happy at our home.
My Q in case she pulls a crazy stunt to go to court, what should my brother have receipts, papers, pictures or what in court to prove that he is a good father? HELP!
2007-02-01 05:47:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry for the problems!!!
I think your brother should make sure to keep every receipt, every proof possible, especially if this girl seems so emotionally unstable!!!
2007-02-01 05:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, save those receipts.... also a journal of how often he goes down there...
So, I take it he does not yet HAVE to pay child support through the courts but is paying on his own good will?
If so, he should wite checks and in the memo right "shild support to 'mothers name' for 'shilds name' "
yes, pictures are good, but only if the child has bruises or what not when he gets down there to see him...... but not normal childhood bruises, he would only want to take pics of suspicious bruises... but dont take a ny naked pics! then they might see that as child porn...
uh. Seriously, court may be a GOOD idea for ALL of you, the child INCLUDED. Lots of states now are pushing for joint custody. Even though both parents homes would be in different counties, it can still work. For example, the child could live with his mother during the school year, and the father could see him perhaps on the weekends (every other). Then during the summer, he could live with the father, and see the mother on the weekends.....
Then, it would be in PAPER, that she is NOT allowed to move away. THAT IS GOOD because, without any legal documents, and since there is no court papers, she could move to ANOTHER state and not tell the father where his kid is. It wouldnt be kidnapping either since no papers force her to tell where the kid is.
If ya ask me, he should get a lawyer now and set this up!
I did, cause I was afraid my sons father would just vanish one weekend when I dropped my son off to him
care,
sammie
2007-02-01 05:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good income and a good house, also would help if all the family showed up in court to support him. If he's never been late on a child support check that helps too! Judges aren't stupid, they can pick out a bad egg rather easily, so as long as your brother doesn't look high, or talk like he could care less, you'll be ok.
2007-02-01 05:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he needs to have all that. Go to the legal department in ur area if u do not have an attorney. Tell them u want joint custody and visitation rights and that he wants to be able to take his child to his house every weekend. Also let the judge know that he pays child support, buys the child gifts and give her cash whenever is needed and also let the judge knows that she is being manipulative. But get joint custody and visitation through the courts that way if she doesn't let him have the child she'll get in trouble for contempt of court.
2007-02-01 05:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by wet t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might need to consider that she isn't a safe mother... Can he get custody of his child.
I would say have video of family activities where he's involved, yes the receipts would show stuff, but that doesn't show the connections with the family like photos and videos can. Also, if she tries something - everyone who looks forward to seeing him and spends time with him can testify.
Is your brother involved with his schooling? Does the school know he's the father? He has rights there too. He can go to parent-teacher conferences, and express concerns about the child to the teacher and counselor.
2007-02-01 05:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by sandysstyles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. All that you mentioned. He needs to get a calendar and keep track of every visit he makes whatever he does for her. He has a good case for himself. He could take her to court for not letting him have the child without her presence. He has a right to visitation whether or not he pays support. (My ex never paid support but was allowed visits and I could not be present.) Your brother should maybe talk to a lawyer to see what his rights are. Keep up the good work and don't badmouth the mom in front of the child, that only confuses the child and instills hate. Good luck.
2007-02-01 05:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that plus keep a diary of events on how she acts and what she says, get one of those notebooks that are sewn on the edge, so it cant be doctored up, they are more legal in court than a calendar.Id keep all financial documents, things bought, child support proof etc...
2007-02-01 05:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like your brother has every-thing on his side.for now ,he , or, I would suggest he should apply for joint custody!
In court make legal,seems to me he is paying to much, like they say is cheaper to keep her !!!
2007-02-01 06:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every thing, The more the better!
2007-02-01 05:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋