Me And My Mum are always constantly fighting and when i try to talk her to her she always has to shout at me and when i shout mum has a right fit at me and when i try to talk 2 her shw doesnt want to know and because of this i get stressed easily and lose my temper --what should i do?
2007-02-01 05:35:25 · 7 answers · asked by Sofia_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Write her a very long letter every day till she will talk to you..there's no yelling.
2007-02-01 05:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mum needs some parenting tools. Once your mum starts to yell, she looses. Yelling is a sign that your not in control and she is the adult. You can try some tools to relate to her on a different level. If your mum is yelling at you and you feel you will loose your temper, then close your eyes and count to 10 in your head. This will help you to take a moment to think about what you want to say and how to say it in a way that will not be provocative. Your mum needs to feel she is in charge, if you want to bi-pass some fights then you need to relate to her in a way that provides her comfort in being the adult. How is this done? Listen to her fully before you respond to what she says. IF you have a difference in opinion, then you recognize that you understand where she is coming from before you tell her your view. If she continues to yell with this skill, then she has issues that are far beyond your relationship. Good luck
Tracylyn S
2007-02-01 13:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl you seem to be pretty depressed, i can understand ur feelings very well,coz u r nt d only one who has faced tis type of conditions.
First and the biggest problems in such fights is ''lack of communication'', u just hav to make right moves at right times,nevr waste a single second of ur precious life with ur temper
Love can melt evrythign,jst talk to her lovingly and coolly alwayz,n always means always.
And i strongly believe that a mother can nevr stay deprived of her motherhood.she is soon gonna give u lots of love.and i'll pray to god for the same..
n yeah plz let me knw bout the progress.
ALL THE BEST SWEETIE
2007-02-01 13:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by khushi_g1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok she yells at u because u dont listen to wat she is saying. And when u r trying to talk to her she doesnt want to listen because u already have the answer but u cant except her answer so u keep asking and she will just continue ignoring u. One thing parents hate is repeating themselves except the answer they give then u wont get stressed out.
2007-02-01 16:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a family acquaintance to be the moderator between you and your Mum and then sit down with both of them and discuss the issues.
2007-02-01 13:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away from those situations,you cant fight fire with fire,the only way for you to fight back is for you not to talk back and distance yourself whenever she starts talking
2007-02-01 13:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well here is some advice:
2007-02-01 13:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Erik W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋