I just had the first date with this guy, and we kissed, he was obviously very attracted to my body and I had to stop him. Living with a roommate and because it was too soon were my excuses. How should I behave next dates if I wanna have something serious and not get hurt in the future again? What should I tell him at the second date? I want him to earn what I have to give. Please advice. Thank you.
2007-02-01 05:33:47 · 16 answers · asked by guriazinhainla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him straight out what you're looking for and what you're comfortable with doing. either he'll take it or he'll leave it. he might appreciate you're honesty about it. but if you don't want him to be tempted then don't go back to your place
2007-02-01 05:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've learned from experience that having sex with somebody too soon doesn't really help to build something serious.
If he likes you, he'll think you're just looking for casual sex. And if he's only interested in screwing you then you shouldn't give him what he wants 'cause he's gonna leave you all alone after that.
If you think it might be serious. Have a casual second date with him, avoid his place or yours. Try to do something you like and you want to share with him: your hobby! You can kiss, no problem with that, ask him what he's looking for and tell him what YOU are looking for.
I found my wonderful lover and stayed with him because I always tell him what I think or feel, it helps to understand what the other person wants!
Good luck!
2007-02-01 05:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh MY GOD girl i am going through the SAME thing i had a first date with this guy and we kissed and everything but it didn't get as serious as yours did...but i feel exactly the way you do....well im still a virgin so im stuck with the descion to either let it go to the guy or keep it...but if i were to choose to letit go then i want it to be a VERY SPECIAL person to me because i don't want to get my feelings hurt, either. I f i was yu i would do what i did which was explain to him what your feelings are and he can't agree with it then it wasn't meant to be!!
2007-02-01 05:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by cookiemonster31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, On the second date? Are you kidding? If he is just after you because of your body, and by the sounds of it he is, then I should think that you should dump the guy and move on. Trust me, it is the only way that you will get any respect from those that are after you. ( Or you can just ask him if he is just interested in your body or your mind? ) Take care and keep me posted. Dave Hicks. 100 Mile House, B.C.
2007-02-01 05:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by injun2free 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure his intentions are real, tell him that you want to wait like 6 months or whatever before you do anything "serious". The longer you make him wait, the more you guys will get to know eachother and if he just can't wait then he isn't the guy for you as he has other plans.
2007-02-01 05:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is ovbiously interested in your body.. hold off the sex before anything..if he is truly intered he will and you will reach a more personal level before anthing physical..guys love thrill of the chase..be flirtacious without giving too much..show him interest but just enogh and when he falls for it..then you can have him...
remembre sex comlicates things..so hold off on that!
2007-02-01 05:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by red_klinik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and frank with him and tell him that you like him a lot and you want to take things slowly for awhile. When he gives you a good night kiss, make sure its nothng more than that.
2007-02-01 05:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT HAVE ANY INTAMATE RELATIONS WITH THIS MAN!!!!He will only see you as a flusy. Men will respect women who are chaste and seem to enjoy other aspects of life.No I am not some kind of weird Old fashioned values kinda person. It just commmon sense ask any guy.
2007-02-01 05:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by gutten abend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 07:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did good on your first date...
Guys love body contact..
Let him fondle you freely on second date..
Tell him you to be patient, you want to
wait a little while for sex but you do want him
and he will have you...
2007-02-01 05:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋