For the past week my husband has been giving me the silent treatment and I have no idea why!! I try to talk to him but he either just ignores me or gives me some snotty reply! I sent him messages to his phone saying I love him and im sorry if I did something to upset him and still! Tuesday was our date night, so I said to myself, Im just going to get dressed and we'll go out and have a good time and forget this nonsense, but he didnt even want to go out on our date!! Ive tried to hash it out with him ( " I love you, something is bothering you, I Want you to tell me what it is") but nothing! He just leaves the house!
Why can't he just tell me what the HELL it is he's mad about?! The only thing I can think of is that 3 days this week Ive been out in the mornings with my girlfriends?? But still in time to be home and have lunch ready when he gets here. And still that really isnt something to be mad at?!!
How can I get him to talk? Or get over this? How can I just grab his attention???
2007-02-01 05:30:25 · 12 answers · asked by nora_mcdonald2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think this question belongs in Marriage and Divorce, but OK, whatever.
Your husband is mad and he won;t talk to you. You may not believe this but maybe the problem has nothing to do with you. Maybe he's just sad or depressed about something else in his life. You need to give him space but at the same time let him know you're there. I know wives hate when husbands go into their own worlds but bugging him about what is wrong does the opposite of what you think it should. If you want to bring him around then maybe try not talking and start doing little things that you know he likes. First give him a day or two of space though. When he starts talking then you can find out whats wrong.
2007-02-01 05:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow...this is really tough. He must been either really pissed or dealing with something he doesn't want to talk to you about right now. Give him a little time and space and then after a day or 2 try and talk to him again. IF this doesn't work then there are 2 ways to get a guy to talk: a good meal or good sex. Pick your choice. lol
2007-02-01 05:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by laangel464 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he ll talk when hes ready, dont push it. And Dont continue playing this game with him. If he wants to treat you like you arent there, then act like your not there. Quit kissing his a**, if you did nothing wrong then dont act like you r guilty. May be if you get him angry enuff then he' ll talk. All couples argue, get it out in the open. Tell him to tell u what is bothering him or forget it cuz u dont like being treated like this.
2007-02-01 05:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he works and you don't. Not a big deal if you both agree on it, but it may be hard to come home to someone who doesn't have the same amount of responsibilities. Try doing your best at the "at home" stuff (and limit spending) and hopefully he'll stop being immature and talk to you about what's bothering him.
2007-02-01 05:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 7828 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
JEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ!
Stop being such a doormat already! Leave him alone, stop apologizing for stuff you didn't do, and wait until he says what's on his mind. You've asked, he doesn't want to tell you - at least, not yet - and you verbally mauling him isn't going to make him want to speak up any faster.
Give him a little breathing room, and get on with the rest of your life until he decides to grow up!
2007-02-01 05:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This incident, whatever caused it, must be just as hard on him as it is on you. Assure him that when he is ready to express himself, you are interested in listening. Tell him you hope the problem is something that can be fixed.
But if his stubbornness continues, and your anger and frustration grows, it may be something that can't be fixed. Steel yourself.
2007-02-01 05:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is behaving in a childish manner. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Get all dressed up and walk out. You both need marraige counseling badly.
2007-02-01 05:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
leave him a note saying he's being childish and petty and if he's not going to at least tell you what he's mad at then you're not going to sit around and cater to his needs. then go out and have fun with your girl friends and see if you can crash there for the night. or, get yourself a nice hotel room and hit up the spa all night.
2007-02-01 05:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe he is suspecting you of meeting someone of those 3 days that you went out,maybe he has some dirty thoughts of you meeting someone that makes him insecure,you need to assure him that your not seeing anyone maliciously,and give him a good sex
2007-02-01 05:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling ASAP before it gets worse. Good luck!!!!
2007-02-01 05:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋