My friend doens't have girlfriend for 8 months and it is really getting to him. One time I tried to call him and his line was busy for 1 hour. Right when I was able to reach him, my first question for him was: "Do you have a girlfriend now? :)" to which he replied: "F### YOU" and hung up. I only said that, because he was chatting away with somebody for 1 hour. We don't talk, but I would like to know who do you think should apologize?
2007-02-01 05:29:40 · 20 answers · asked by Redski 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it has to be a matter of who is right or wrong then most likely there is no sense in continuing the relationship anyway.
But if you want an honest answer, I believe you both made errors. You said you knew he had not had a g/f for 8 months and it was GETTING to him. Then when he wasn't available to answer your call right away due to talking to someone else you made a very insensitive statement that could be hurtful, knowing how he was feeling about being alone. As I view it, he also erred when he immediately took offense to your questioning.
If you knew it was such a sore subject as you were aware that it was REALLY GETTING TO HIM, then you were not very considerate in presenting that to him in the form of a question when frustrated with not being able to reach him for an hour.
So if you can't be the first to call him and state it much like I, or others have above or somewhat close then I would suggest say goodbye to the friendship because true friends are willing to forgive and forget and true friends will be there for each other when THINGS ARE GETTING TO EACH OTHER and not run when the going gets tough, or when one inadvertently ask something so insensitive.
2007-02-01 05:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should apologize to you because all you did was ask him a simple question he didn't have to be so rude and curse at you. Your his friend and you just were wondering if he had a girlfriend because he has been pretty down since the last girl and apparently you don't want him to get hurt again and only want what's best for him.
2007-02-01 13:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you should apologize. He doesn't have a girl for 8 months, he's talking to, not necessarily a girl, someone for an hour. Maybe it wasn't even him on the phone. Maybe someone left the phone off the hook, you need to think things through before you jump and say something like that.
2007-02-01 13:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by burly_red_sheep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows maturity to apologize for your own actions. It's not a matter of being right or wrong. How about leaving a message on his voice mail when he's not home or sending him an email giving apologies for being thoughtless in asking him if he has a girlfriend now.
2007-02-01 13:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by rivkadacat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You knew he was upset over his lack of a relationship so what you said was just a bit insensitive.
More than that, when someone has said that you hurt them, those are valid feelings. You may not understand them but they are very real to the person. So, if you want to not only be a good friend but a good person, you would take ownership of the feelings your action caused and say you're sorry.
2007-02-01 13:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by misskate12001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your friendship and how you normally speak to each other. Guys tease the crap out of each other all of the time, and if it's normal for you to tease each other and have the other one get sniffy about it, then nobody owes anybody an apology.
If it's not normal for you two to joke around this way, then he probably thought you were teasing him about a subject he's obviously VERY SENSITIVE about and he just plain wigged out.
IMO, it's no biggie. If I did what you did to a friend of mine and she did what your friend did, I would think it was hilarious and would just call her right back.
2007-02-01 13:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked a simple question, and he said f*ck you..and you think you need to apologyze? Whatever..if someone said f*ck you and hung up on me they would get a smack in the head next time I saw them, not an apology.
2007-02-01 13:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I believe you were wrong. It wasn't perhaps the best question to ask (he sounds like he's still bitter about being alone). Next time perhaps just inquire as to why the line was busy first.
2007-02-01 13:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you should apologize. You were just asking and he got mad because he doesn't have a girlfriend. Just let it go. Both of you.
2007-02-01 13:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, think you should apologize because what you did was rub. he will have a girlfriend when he wants to not when you say. this take time don't rush him.
2007-02-01 13:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by *BooTz* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋