I will admit that one of them has quite a few boyfriends most of the time, but my other two friends are either married or engage and have never cheated. Why does he think this? Why does he think that I don't have a mind of my own?
2007-02-01 05:27:38 · 15 answers · asked by hiyall123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds very controlling and insecure. You need to sit him down and talk to him about this. You need to point out out to him that you do have the ability to think for yourself. If he still continues to act like this, then you might want to re-think the relationship. You can't have a healthy relationship without trust.
2007-02-01 05:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me break this down for you. Most mean feel that (excuse the expression)hoes flock together. If your friends are hoes then read between the lines. You may not cheat but if you see what your friends are doing you may want to experience what they are experiencing, peer pressure is a mutha. You may be mad at him one time and be out and get the urge to do something. Your friends could be trying to influence you to cheat with a friend or family member of their choice, they maybe making fun of you because you are in a good relationship and want to see you unhappy by telling you that you need to cheat because he may be cheating on you and you are a fool for being faithful to him, there are a lot of different scenarios, not saying that you don't have your own mind but to err is human. Women are very jealous and vindictive people (not just me talking, other women told me the same thing) and that is why most women don't like women around there men. Care to see Jerry Springer............
2007-02-01 13:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by thee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to control you. It's a slow process of breaking you down. The slower the better because as he breaks you down, you are more apt to say "Well, since I love him, I can just stop hanging out with this friend"
The next thing you know...You have stopped all together seeing anyone.
You are a big girl now so don't let him tell you what you can and can't do. That sort of thing takes your "choice" of the relationship and makes you more of an object than a person to cherish.
2007-02-01 13:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only a possibility. Your boyfriend considers your relationship a very personal and private love affair. He feels that your friends in their crass but friendly nature give him a hard time and make light of his feelings for you. Friends can be cruel in that regard. It could be subliminal. Your boyfriend wants you to be discerning when it comes to your friends. He has a right to ask that of you. My ex had a lot of friends. Maybe 2 or 3 were good--the rest I wouldn't give them the time of day.
2007-02-01 13:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put up with that. He's either insecure or he knows about certain persons you're friends with that could hurt other persons and their relationships. I'd tell your boyfriend to explain to you why he feels that way about your friends or kick him to the curb. Noone deserves to be in a relationship with a bossy controlling jealous big bully.
2007-02-01 13:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by padiwan2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's trying to isolate you from your friends and then maybe your family next. He also seems insucure in a way. There no law saying he is supposed to like your friends, or vice versa. I can't say why he thinks that. The only way you can get that answer is to ask him yourself. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-02-01 13:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who thought this once. He absolutely hated my friends-not all of them, but enough to bother me. I told him that if he trusted me like he said he did, then he'd just have to deal with it. I loved him, but I wasn't getting rid of my friends I've had forever just to make him trust me. And I never did cheat on him. None of my friends wanted me too, they thought we were a great couple. [He got over it, by-the-way.] =] That's what happened to me-good luck though.
2007-02-01 13:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by lilmisskristax0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. What i did was i dumped him right off the back. But if you dont want to than try to convince him that they are nice people. My ex asked me out after i dumped him and i said yes again and i got him to be friendz w/ my friendz and even though we broke up again we're all friendz
2007-02-01 13:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he loves you very much and is afraid of losing you so there fore he blames all the people who you mostly spend your time with(instead od him) so don't take it personal, if i was you i would sit him down and really tell him your feelings about the situation.
2007-02-01 13:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by cookiemonster31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmph have no ideal but best of luck finding out
2007-02-01 13:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by spiritualism0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋