I have been with her for 3 years things have been too great until about 4 months ago she met this guy at school and ever since she has been acting very distant to the point where she broke it off with me. So I stopped calling and about a week later she called saying she loves me and she can't see her life with anybody else. After trying to deal with it and find pece in my heart she comes around and tells me these things, why? I asked her not to call unless she wanted to fix our relationship. She is 21 I am 26 and I love her to death and even thou I know she is seeing that other guy I am not mad at her. I mean she never cheated on me. I too got with another girl when we first broke up but it was until after so even thou we have been with other people we always break up first but later we can't live without each other. Why if we love each other so much can't we be in the same state of mind and place in our hearts. She said I want to marry a guy like you someday but not now but i Love U.
2007-02-01 05:26:19 · 12 answers · asked by david w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's all bull...get out as soon as you can or you will regret it later...once a cheater always a cheater...just thank god you found out before you got into something more serious with her like marriage...she doesn't really love you...she is young and probably feels you are something sure for her or just wants to see how far she can go and you will forgive her
2007-02-01 05:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Queen of the Rÿche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your going through is a simple pattern and through my years, I've observed lots of relationships qualifying in the same category, the high school sweetheart thing.
My two best friends were together in jr. high , throughout high school and broke up 2 years after graduating high school. They dated others and got back together 2 years later and are together to this date.
Let her test the waters honey, it's best for her to do it now than to try it later, especially with the possibilities of children being involved.
Let her know how you feel - maybe because your both kind of growing in different directions, change is not what your used to - it might not at all be what you think.
People should also respect other peoples wishes especially if one wants to end a relationship. You can't make a relationship happen if one party is not receptive. Good Luck honey!!! you sound like a sweetie!
2007-02-08 20:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by STAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are wasting your time waiting for her. She doesn't know what she wants right now. She wants to have her fun, but wants the security knowing you are there for when she MIGHT come running back to you. I am sure she does have a special place in her heart for you seeing that you dated for three years. My suggestion is to move on. It may hurt right now, but keep busy, especially with your friends. I was in a similar situation years ago. Both my now husband and I dated for a few years, and found we needed some space. It seems we were both going through some growing pains...which after time you will see is quite normal, especially at your age. As much as it hurt at the time for me it was the greatest thing we both did. We met other people with different interests....I guess we were "testing the waters." We were lucky enough to come back to each other...much stronger. We have been married for almost 14 years and now we never wonder if maybe there was someone else out there for us....we took the time we needed. Good luck!
2007-02-01 05:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by luvthesouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend and her bf broke up with her, and they dated other ppl and stuff but they always get back together... Except this time he didn't want to get back together... He said I love you and i know i'll marry you someday but i just wanna hang out and have fun right now... I guess he just wanted to have a lil fun and know whatz out there before being tied down... There were apart for 4 or 5 months and now they're back together, just as happy as ever.
2007-02-01 05:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a maturity issue to me. She's young and probably wants to play the field, even though she may love you still. You need to be up front and ask her what she wants. You don't need these head games, believe me- I've been there. If you guys want to patch things up, she needs to grow up. If not, you both need to move on. I was in the same situation with an indecisive ex, but I am glad I stuck to my guns and moved on.
2007-02-01 05:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, she wants her cake and eat it too.
Obviously she doesn't want a too serious relationship.
I know you say you love her, but you have to let her go, you can't force her to be as serious in the relationship as you are, since it does NOT look like that is what she wants right now.
2007-02-01 05:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her get her confusion out of her system she will come around. If it is meant for you guys to be together the take that ride and see other people. Don't force it
2007-02-09 02:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by misslynn26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did it with the other guy and felt so guilty after the fact the only way she could justify it was to break up with you. Classic
2007-02-01 05:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a pretty girl to hang out with and she will feel exactly like you do. You don't have to have sex just hang out with her and learn more about women. It always gets better!
2007-02-09 04:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by liemus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short... if she hurt you once she'll do it again...You seem like a sweet guy find yourself a sweet girl one who knows what she has and is lucky to have it!...
2007-02-09 03:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by Hopelesslylost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋