My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We have been through ups and downs. She wants to hang out with a buddy from high school, who is a guy. Back in High school she told me she "made out" with him at a dance for fun. He doesn't get out of work until late, so they are meeting at a restaurant (like Applebees) around 9 then going to see a movie at 10:30. Is there anything I should worry about? She has more guy friends than girls. I have meant all her friends in the past, the first time she has seen them since we have been dating. She did not invite me to come along this time. She told me all her guy friends are either gay or real good friends. How can I bring this up to her so it doesn't sound like I don't trust her?
2007-02-01 05:24:01 · 10 answers · asked by mark j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, coming from a girl's point of view, you have to put your fears aside, and trust the fact that you two have a strong relationship. Someone once told me that if a person wants to cheat, they will, and there's nothing you can do about it. Ask her to invite you the next time she wants to hang out with him, if they are "just friends", then she'll have no problem!
2007-02-01 05:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..if she's gonna cheat.. she's gonna do it regardless...I would meet the guy..because it's only fair but if you did not get an invite..that's fine..don't worry about it..
Ask her where they are going to go..VERY CASUALLY... and then assure her of how much you love her and trust her...that should put you in the back of her head and prevent her from doing anything stupid..if she values your relationship...she should give you your place...but i wouldn't make a big deal out of it..just assure her that it doesn't bother you as long as she gives you your place as the boyfriend and that those particular dates aren't frequent because in that case i would definately advise you to talk to her.... Good lUck!
2007-02-01 05:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by red_klinik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a girl and i pretty much hate almost every girl i've ever met. women are catty and annoying. so all my friends are guys. my bf and i have been together for 4 years and i've never cheated on him and i think maybe his trust in me has helped the fact that i've never cheated on him. trust her til she has given you a reason not to. i like to chill with my friends w/out my bf sometimes its just natural to want space. just be open wit her and tell her your feelings about this situation. girls are a little more understanding than most guys think
2007-02-01 05:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by hickgirl4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either trust her or you don't. I have a feeling that if you trusted her you wouldn't have posted this question. If you truly trust her you would just know there is nothing going on. To me the trust issue is within you. I wouldn't ask her because it would only upset her.
2007-02-01 05:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by badmitton69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about her if you two are serious then you know and she know that you two really love each other and that was then now is now don't worry about the past because you two might really be heading some serious and it really shouldn't be really worth it because she would never lye to you even if wasn't going out with you.
2007-02-01 05:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm ... i would have a talk to her about it ... tell her you wanna go but make sure she knows you trust her tell her that you wanna become friends with him too ... just if she says no dont go off or anything and if you get mad try to hold it in ... or it will just make everything worst for you .... if you wanna show her you do trust her you might just have to let her go ... just try to tell her how you really feel and dont think about anything bad if you guys have been dateing for 3 years its not like shes a hoe or something ...
~amber~
2007-02-01 05:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her and tell her how you feel, kinds sounds more like a date than hanging out otherwise she wouldn't have a problem with you being there
2007-02-01 05:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is nothinu should be worried about personally but be careful and take care of ur feeling becuz i dont no u but i dont want u to get hurt becuz wen someone is in love and they get hurt it is hard to cope wit ur pain and u want to do sum silly things so be careful..
2007-02-01 05:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by PiGmeNT OF cOlor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have concerns you should talk about it, you always have to keep things open and honest!! and another thing do you have any female friends, because you should be able to go out with them with out her getting upset
2007-02-01 05:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HER !!!! she's a whore and shes screwin em' and u kno it
2007-02-01 06:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by PhotographyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋