Buy this and that, can't live without it. I see parents buying stuff all the time and bribbing there children with materialistic garbage. Aren't Birthdays, Christmas, and Valentines enough? Don't you think that when these children get older and can't afford every thing that they want, that they will start to steal, therefore setting into action a whole new set of problems?
2007-02-01 05:12:58 · 9 answers · asked by Cheryl 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Credit
I don't think they'll start to steal, but I do think that children who are given everything they ask for have a sense of entitlement and often have a hard time with "real world" situations once they are no longer under Mom & Dad's Visa card.
There is a balance, though. No, I don't think "birthday, Christmas & Valentine's day" are enough. Certainly you can do nice things for your children throughout the year, even agree to buy an unplanned treat during a shopping trip every once in a while, without spoiling them & ruining them for life. You can do this and still teach them the value of a dollar, or that sometimes you can't have what you want right away (or maybe ever).
It's about balance, boundaries, and respect. Parents need to teach that begging, demanding, whining, etc. aren't going to get a "no" to change to a "yes," but they also need to not say "no" so often that the kids feel like everything's a downer.
Actually, I think it's more likely that the kids who hear "no" over & over & over, without an occasional "yes" for good behavior/etc., are the ones more likely to steal.
2007-02-01 05:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by maxinestringbean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I pretty much agree with you, except I don't think they gonna start stealing. But they will expect to have everything right NOW just because they had never waited for anything in the life. A lot of times we ask kids(our patients ) what did they ask Santa for just before Christmas, lately they are not even excited about the holiday because they have anything they want before holidays. As soon as new game or movie comes out they get it, there is nothing they are denied by parents. It is sad, but not scary. The parents dig there own graves in this case.
2007-02-01 05:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by alkak1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whose to say that these "materialistic children" as you call them wont be able to afford these things when they are older. I think parents should talk to there children about how much things cost, and tell them that in order for them to be able to afford nice things they need to do well in school and go to college so they can get good paying jobs when they are older.
That's what I do with my children.
2007-02-01 05:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by moneekie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just read a story about a 48 yr. old man that did 13 yrs.in a Federal prison for conspriracy to distribute cocaine.He blames no one for his troubles,he said that he had it pretty good.He had a good mother,a good father,and a good stepfather.What happened to him was that he fell for that 'get it right now' mentality.Instant gratification.He turned his life around completely after his mom passed away.He is writing plays now to help out other young kids which might be tempted to be lead astray by greed,violence,selfishness,and pride.He wants them to know that it's not worth it.Either you die or go to prison.I just wanted to share that with you.
2007-02-01 05:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you ,not to long ago my children were bugging for cell phones ,gameboys and all the other neat stuff their friends had at school,last summer was the final straw i made them go get part time jobs and for the younger children they do chores for
their grandmother and i.no we don't pay them alot because i can't afford it but they get the idea that they to would have to save
to get the stuff they want.
2007-02-01 05:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by chan72 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're teaching YOUR children those things; my kid is fine, and earning his own way in the world. Don't lump everybody together in the same group. If you don't like what they're doing, don't do it with your child; meanwhile, don't be envious of parents who might be able to give their children more than you can, and don't assume that you know what's going on in their home.
2007-02-01 05:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not everyone does this sort of thing... there are many different kinds of people in the world....
...and not all children steal ...
2007-02-01 05:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a question? of course we are. it's just a matter of degree...
2007-02-01 05:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by jim06744 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
2007-02-01 14:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by anti l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋