My long-distance boyfriend of 2years told me 2 weeks ago how unhappy he is with our long-distance relationship. He's been complaining about it a lot these days. we both agreed that we will try our best to move closer to each other within the next 6 months. He has been having a hard time at work with his boss and because of that he has not been promoted as he had hoped to. He has been telling how upset he is that I cannot be there close enough to him and that he is tired of this and it's upsetting him. He said he has needs that I cannot satisfy since I am not close enough to him. So 2 days ago he told me that he wants be less involved with me and to take a distance. He wants to do this until our situation changes. He said that if I want to continue our relationship, I need to accept this. He says he still loves me and cares for me but he doesnt want to spend his time talking on the phone all the time. I was quite shocked. He said that he needs to take the distance to stand the situation
2007-02-01 05:08:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is coming to see me next week.
2007-02-01 05:08:46 · update #1
Violet, he wants to find somebody to be there - literally and physically - for him. He's distancing himself from you slowly to get you used to the idea of him breaking up with you so he can date someone who will be there if you won't be.
When he comes to visit, it's put-up-or-shut-up time. Either discuss ways you two can move closer to each other, or else prepare yourself for the eventual, final break-up...which will come days or weeks later.
2007-02-01 05:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My long distance boyfriend did the same thing. I kept asking him if he had met someone else but he never answered the question. He said he needed a break and stopped calling or texting. This happened right after what I thought was an awesome trip to NY together. I didn't know at the time that he had met some else, an old high school friend at a reunion. I get the impression she pursued him. Finally a month after the break I called and admitted he was seeing her. I am guessing he has met someone or is about to go there.
2016-02-07 11:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not because if he's got the balls to tell you he wants to cool it a little then he wouldnt have had a problem with finishing it. That said, it does sound like he means to get out more and meet people in his own area. Unfortunately, unless your circumstances change then this relationship sounds doomed. Plenty more people out there so go for it yourself. You may end up shocking him into making it work
2007-02-01 05:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone tells you they want to distance themselves or they need some space/time, it's over with. He doesn't want to be with you. Saying what he has, means he won't get your wrath because he knows you will sit quietly waiting for him to return....which he won't. Move on and find someone else. I have found in these circumstances that the other person has either got someone else or have their eyes on a new potential lover.
2007-02-01 05:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Angelfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants you intimately rather than just hearing your voice.
you have two choices talk to him to resolve this or you end it and move on to a guy who will not be attempting to pressure you into something you are clearly not ready for.
you will only resolve this by talking to him.
just because you are long distance in this instance it does not mean he has found someone new.
talk it out. listen to all his reasons calmly without jumping to conclusions and without prejudging (as you seem to have done already by accusing him in the question of finding someone new).
he could just be hedging his bets and keeping his options open by letting you down so to speak and then going out and finding a local girl to him to date.
to be brutaly honest you may be better off leaving him and moving on to someone new.
good luck.
and i hope it all works out for you!
2007-02-01 05:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation sucks but he needs someone close right now. It seems like he has alot going on and he needs some space to step back and get perspective. Dont stress, if its meant to be it will be ;)
2007-02-01 05:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by katyk08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, he hasn't met anyone else.
He's just is creating a situation where he won't be tied down IF something better comes along.
Until the situation changes, he doesn't want to be committed. I can't blame him.
2007-02-01 05:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you really asked this question 83 times now? It sure looks that way. Why not read the answers other people have taken the time to give you instead of repeatedly posting it?
2007-02-01 05:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably hasn't met anyone yet, but he may want to. Long distance relationships are rarely successful. I hope you can stay friends at least.
Sorry.
2007-02-01 05:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like life has put him through the ringer recently...if he needs space, give it too him.
the answer to your direct question is, no, i don't believe that he has met someone yet but he is at needy point in his life and he needs an actual person to be there and you aren't satisfying that right now.
2007-02-01 05:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋