And brings up how he is living check to check and suffering now, but in a year will have his Masters degree and commanding a much higher salary...
How am I supposed to interpret that? Should I just take it for what it is and not find deeper meaning? Is he looking for a sugar mama (a woman to pay his bills)? Is he warning me not to expect any Valentine's day gifts? Or does this mean I'm 3rd or 4th on his rotation and that the funds are being spent with other women and I shouldn't expect to be taken out or anything for a long time.
Please help! I really like this guy but I'm tired of games. I'm willing to stick by him, broke or not, but I don't want to play myself.
2007-02-01 04:50:21 · 21 answers · asked by Solvinia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a student. He's broke. That's what it means. Don't expect much from him from a material stand point. That's all he's saying. He's saying that if you're a gold digger, you should find someone else.
2007-02-01 04:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What he means is that he doesn't have a lot of money right now, so he can't treat you to fancy things like other guys can. He's warning you that if you can't deal with that, then you shouldn't date him. Don't read too much into it, or assume he's interested in other women - getting a graduate degree is expensive, and he probably really is living hand to mouth right now.
If you really want to be with him for the long haul, you'll have to be patient through this tough time. Offer to go Dutch on your dates, and keep you gifts to small items (one candy bar instead of a box of chocolates, handmade gifts instead of storebought, etc).
The best way to avoid games is to be totally honest, with yourself and with him. Tell him clearly what you need, what you worry about, and what you want.
2007-02-01 04:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come when men tell women the truth, they always think bad things. You always want us to tell you the truth, but then you take it all out of proportion. He is a student studying for his masters degree, of course he is broke. If you don't mind a year of eating Ramen Noodles, and watching rented movies, then your future could be bright, and hopefully you will be dining on lobster and going to the theater. He is telling you that he is broke because he is. It means that you shouldn't expect to go out every friday night, but rather you might want to just go to his place and watch a movie, or better yet invite him to you place and cook him a nice meal.
If you invest in him now you will have a bountifull return in the future.
2007-02-01 04:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by maxexposure2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that:
A- He's in denial about his faillure
B- He's trying to impress you
C- He's a loser
D- You'd be better off with someone who's a success now, not waiting for it to happen.
Please don't pay his bills!! No self respecting man will take a woman's money like that.
2007-02-01 05:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Liz S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think to deeply about it, he may be just letting you know up front that although he isn't rolling in the money now he working toward a brighter future. Since he is working toward his masters I would say he's driving for his own personal success and thinks that if you don't want him while he's struggling then you won't deserve him when he's flourishing.
Date him!
2007-02-01 04:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say maybe he is trying to tell you yes probably not to expect a very expensive gift, but yet he does care and wants to share his problems with you meaning he wants to share his life with you down the road just t hang in there.
2007-02-01 04:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Macey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm it can mean any of these. You should best be able to judge his character.
Maybe he is embarrassed he can't take you out the way he would like to? But wants you to know it will improve.
Does he seem like he has more $$$?
Is he out a lot without you??
Has he asked you to pay for anything??
2007-02-01 04:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are his spending habits? Does he use his money for drinking? Mabey he's just a frugal guy & he's telling you that so you don't expect to much from him.I'm like that.I'll take my girl out for a night on the town once in a wile but, she knows that we can't do that to much because I need to pay the bills.Take him out to dinner & tell him you're buying,see what his reaction is.
2007-02-01 05:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters I think you're reading way too much into it. He's probably being honest, or he's testing you to see what type of woman you are. If you like him, then you like him not his bank account or net worth. Be driven enough to take care of yourself then whether or not a guy is broke won't matter so much.
2007-02-01 04:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that it is a bunch of games...that what he is saying has deeper implied meaning, you should ask him these questions. It might not have that much underlying meaning at all. He just might be sharing with you his current financial situation...which sucks!
Talk to the man, not us.
2007-02-01 04:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋