i was to meet my bf, he said he loved me and missed me the night before but i had no idea what i was about to hear. it was a talk about 'us' i knew we argued lately, so we had a break for 4 days. I told him it really hurts me when we argue and he gets me to a point where i cry..is that love? maybe you love the idea of having a gf, but not me. he said yeah your right! i dont love you. i asked him to tell me the truth all this time 8 months? he said he used me for sex, didnt love me at all, he said ive changed, that all those promising letters and emails he wrote werent coming from his heart just from a great actor! i cried but he just laughed, i kissed him and he pushed me away. i told him i loved him and begged him but he didnt. since then i got a letter saying i love u, and always have - im not good enough or right for u. He had a talk with my friend and wants to meet meet me this sat for a talk. He broke my heart i dont know what to expect now if its more pain i cant bare to see him!
2007-02-01 04:49:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GIRL DONT EVEN STRESS IT
I was with a guy for seven and a half months. Our relationship ended really unexpected. It happened so fast that it just made it harder for me to realize that it was really ending. I was friends with most of his friends. So that just made it harder for me because he's name would come up alot. But I realized that he was the one that messed up. And I started thinking about things in a different way. I knew I loved him, but I started asking myself "how could you be in love with a guy that doesn't want to be with you?" I mean he had the nerve to end things between us without even trying to talk about it or try to work it out. So i would say you got really used to him. Just being around him all the time. And now your are scared of what its goIng to be like without him. So now you have to go on with your life. TIme will heal your wound. Thats all you really need. One thing that will really make it hard for you is talkin to him. I'm not saying to avoid him if you see him. I'm saying to be the bigger person. But if you could try to not talk to him the way you used to you'll be just fine. AND ANOTHER THING, FOR HIM TO TELL YOU THE THINGS HE TOLD YOU THAT ONLY GOES TO SHOW THAT HE IS THE ONE WITH THE INSECURITY AND HE IS FEELING SHITTY SO SHITTY THAT HE IS TRYING TO BRING YOU DOWN WITH HIM. TRY ING TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE HE IS GREATER THAN YOU . WHEN A GUY LOVES/RESPECTS YOU THEN HE JUST DOESNT SAY THINGS LIKE THAT. SORRY I MADE IT SO LONG. BUT I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
- GIVE IT TIME AND YOU'LL REALIZE HOW MUCH HAPPIER YOU ARE WITHOUT HIM IN YOUR LIFE.
-IF YOU GUYS END UP MAKING UP. TRY TO NOT BE SO LOVING TO HIM THAT WAY HE'LL START RESPECTING YOU MORE. BECAUSE IF YOU ARE THE ONE THAT IS ALWAYS ALL OVER HIM (AFTER HIM, KISSING HIM, HUGGING HIM ETC). THEN HE IS GOING TO THINK THAT NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES ( FUC** UP) THAT YOU WILL STILL BE THERE ON THE SIDE FOR HIM TO HAVE WHENEVER HE WANTS.
-JUST REMEMBER HE IS NOT THE ONLY GUY OUT THERE. THERE ARE PLENTY OF NICE/ **HOT**/ MATURE GUYS OUT THERE.
2007-02-01 05:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him, then hear him out, if he makes sense to you deep in your heart, then you will know. He could be afraid of commitment or he is truly telling you the truth that he does "not feel good enough or right for you." Find out what is happening in his life? Has he failed some exam? Lost his job? How does he get along with his family? Did he get himself into some trouble with the law? Do not push him for answers, but explain you are there to listen to whatever has been going on in his life. If he will take your help, help him get some help weather it is for school, work, home or the police. If he feels that you will not turn away from him when bad things happen and that you are there to help him and be his support you might find out what is wrong.. Just to not judge him, just listen and be there.. If he will not talk to you about what has been happening to him and if you get no answers to the questions you ask, then it is better to let him go, and if he does love you, he will return, if not than you are better off without him. Good luck.. seems like you will need it..
2007-02-01 05:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the truly hard parts about being in love is the sadness that comes when that love dies. But believe me, no one has ever died of a broken heart. You may be hurting badly right now but it will pass and you will be stronger and wiser for the experience. Try to focus on yourself instead of your lost love. Decide where you want to go from here and take positives steps to achieve your goal. Try taking a course in something you really enjoy or participating in a favourite activity. The pain of loss will lessen more and more each day and then, suddenly, you'll realize, I'm over it. All the Best!
2007-02-01 05:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Trail Hiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wil get burned again. You are a toy to him. Like a puppet. The minute he said ' a great actor' should tell you to STAY AWAY and not trust 1 word he says!!! The minute he laughed when you cried shows his clear lack of emotion, empathy, care, or feelings for others.The minute he told you he used you for sex and didn't love you at all should have made you run. I know those things he's done hurt, but you also have to step back and see what it really is. That will make you KNOW it's not you. It's just a punk kid using some girl as a play toy.
It's our need to gain acceptance of others, at times, that makes us hang on to these people. But you have to realize that this person is not worth anything, and that their acceptance of you is of no value, and meaningless.
STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
2007-02-01 05:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to search for those love letter lines on the internet if he was saying truth. There must be something in his mind which cant be predicted without meeting him. So, you should go & meet him when planned. You already had enough & anything more won't hurt you much... but you will become stronger. Hard times make us stronger, so try to face it.
Second thing might be that he did it because some friend of him loves you & he is trying to leave you for him. (this is stupidity in this case).
Whatever the case is, be stronger.
2007-02-01 04:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a real player & you deserve better. Don't fall for his tricks. Move on & break all ties with him. He sounds like a control freak to me. Been there...done that. Stupid me once...but not twice. He admitted that he used you. He was so right when he said he was neither right or good enough for you. Do yourself a big favor & don't meet this guy Saturday, because he's counting on you to do so. It's all part of his game now. What more is there to talk about? He said a mouthful!!!!
2007-02-01 04:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are describing an all too typical type of guy. He is being honest.
He did use you. He didn't love you for most of the relationship. He did fake it.
Now he feels bad...and he cares some...enough to be honest. But he is not mature and he isn't ready for you.
Spare yourself the pain. He will hurt you again. Don't do it...if he needs to apologize more, tell him to write it to you. At least you are young....just avoid this type in the future.
It is easy for me to say...but I have been there several times. This type of personality isn't rare. They are nice and make you feel good till they don't anymore. It is like a really good drug.
Please understand that I think you are the good person here...but cut your losses. I can't tell how old you are...but you are smarter now...thank him for that one day.
But don't do anything for him now...he killed your heart...time to heal..away from him.
2007-02-01 05:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ever contact this freak again. Stay far away from him, he is manipulating you for his own personal pleasure. I know this is not what you want to hear, but this guy is a jerk. He's telling you the truth. Ditch him and do not talk to him anymore. You are feeding his ego. The most hurtful thing you can do is stay away from him and pretend he does not even exist.
2007-02-01 04:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over him i know that he broke your heart but he will just use again. so go meet him and tell him off cause you dont need him you can do so much better than him.
2007-02-01 04:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by airplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont put up with it. Let him know your willing to listen to what he has to say,but your realy hurt,so your not up to making any considerations for a relationship at this time.
If you do descide to meet with him - I would tell him out right I love you, you hurt me, and I know what you were trying to do.
Bottom line. If he did this to you once, whats to say he wont do it again.
2007-02-01 06:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋