To hurt me and make me pay for what i did. we stayed talking for the last 2 months. and he didnt want me talking to any guys or hanging out with anyone. i love him and respected that fact, but now he broke it off with his x and told me he misses me, but he doesnt want a relationship rite now. i just dont know what to do i love him but in the same sense he hurt me so bad and treated me so bad when we were apart.... What do i do? Is he just keeping me around for when he doesnt find someone else and a piece?!?! HELP PLEASE
2007-02-01 04:29:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he is using you until something better comes along. Your best bet would be to move on and let him go. He can't forgive you for a mistake you made a long time ago and he will make you "pay the price" for as long as you are in each others' lives. A good relationship takes two people making the efforts together to make it work well and last long.
2007-02-01 04:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, You know in your heart he isn't right for you. You said it right there in your own question.He treated you bad from the beginning and even though cheating isn't right, it may be the reason you did it to begin with. All people wish and desire to be treated well and to feel loved.So, If they are not getting it from someone they are with, they tend to be susceptible to taking it some where else.
He is an insecure controlling person who more than likely will only be good at giving you more pain.If you care for him, just let him know you care about him but don't believe you can be anything with him other than friends.If he gets angry with you and acts like a jerk, then you know all he wanted was what he could get from you and don't really care about your needs at all.Guys like him are a dime a dozen. Take some time to heal yourself, then go find a good man who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.One that will not be jealous and controlling.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 12:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his just wanting you for a piece of a$$, bc of the way he treated you. I mean seriously, if you love them and know there sorry and regret what they done then you don't turn around and do it to them to hurt them even worse. He knew it would hurt you and thats why he done it. and now he doesn't want a relationship bc he wants to get out and have fun with other girls and come back to you when he feels like it. Honey you have got to move on and forget about him he is just keeping you around to use you when he wants to. Im sorry but you have to move on from him and find somebody else. He will realize what he had when your gone for good.
2007-02-01 12:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cheated. You do not deserve to have him back. You would just do it again. If you love his as much as you say then why would you cheat on him? He may miss you but he can't get over what you did so he talks to you but he will never really be able to trust you again and because of that you can't have a healthy relationship. Cut your losses and move on.
2007-02-01 12:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he is keeping you around for a just in case I can't get sex thing. Move on with your life, learn your lesson and for God sake do not fool around on anyone else, Take care Heather
2007-02-01 12:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't love him because if you did you would have never cheated in the first place and don't let him keep you on the back burner you dont deserve that but again you cheated so he may feel that he owes you something
2007-02-01 12:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes using you hun. Dont let him. Tell him to either have a relationship with you and try again or end it.
Good luck
2007-02-01 12:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than second best.
You know what you get with this guy and quite frankly, YOU are WORTH more than that.
Don't settle for that...
spend your time on you and finding a better guy who can love you for who you really are...accept you for who you really are, Value you for all you do,
2007-02-01 12:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back to his ex to "make you pay" sounds vindictive and demeaning. People who love you won't purposely hurt you.
Ditch him.
2007-02-01 12:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you deserve better?
What comes around goes around
2007-02-01 12:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋