I have an 'internet friend' for about a year plus already, and we've been in this long distance relationship for a few months until we gave up because we live too far from each other...He's very very adoreable (well personalitywise etc) and lives in Australia, while i live in England (now Holland). Recently there is a new spark that brought those 'old feelings' back...and he asked me to wait on him for 2 years (until he goes to university or take a gap year)
knowing that i am single and i will stay single for a while...like a long while...i said yes...but i'm worried about how long this can really span for...even if i am waiting (which i probably am), what should i do? do long distance relationships really work out, or can long distance relationships really work out?
2007-02-01 04:19:01 · 13 answers · asked by ChristopheraX 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't go out at weekends to bars and clubs to meet new people, i hardly ever meet new people cuz i only go to school and back home...no one at school will ask me out anyway...so is it still possible for me to wait 2 years or so?
2007-02-01 04:31:28 · update #1
by the way, i'm waiting on him because we live in different countries and we're still 16/17-ish and in full time education...
2007-02-01 04:36:22 · update #2
Dont waste your life waiting on him..he will be seeing other girls..get yourself out with friends and meet a real man that can visit you and doesnt live on the other side of the world.
2007-02-08 19:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,you are young. Taking your time is a good thing. Being focused is also good. Often relationships distract you from your priorities. Your education is important. Usually, the best way to find someone is doing things you like to do. In natural circumstances.
Generally, long distance relationships don't work out. Most people really don't wait for someone. However, there is always the chance, however slim, that story book endings take place. Mind you, it is more likely in the movies where the script is pre-written. Have you shared pictures of each other? Sounds like you can communicate well together. How exactly do you plan to get together anyways? I think the odds are against you, but nothing is impossible. Good luck in your decision.
2007-02-09 04:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by TopCatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty only you can answer this question correctly. A long distance relationship works only when both people are committed to each other. If you have true deep feelings for him waiting for him should be super easy. Also you must take into consideration if you are missing out on other opportunities will you are waiting for him. Two years is a LONG time. You should go with what you feel in your heart. It would also help if you could visit him a few times through out that wait, or he can come visit, it might be expensive but it can help keep the spark in your relationship. I wish you and your love interest the best of luck.
2007-02-01 04:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dat_Ny_Chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to decide whether in ten years time you'll look back of this two years of loneliness with regret or not.
I'd be inclined to say that two years is far too long, and for him to even ask you implies he wants to control both you and the relationship.
Your teens are the years to rebel and find yourself, if you spend two years waiting for a relationship that may not happen, you run the risk of "waiting for something to happen" being the biggest aspect of your personality.
And unfortunately, that makes for a very boring life
2007-02-08 20:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jugular 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your young
being foolish too
sweetie if you were older I'd say go over there and get wed then find out my friend did and has been wed for two years he met her off the net. too
but uni is one step for him to say good bye from you while he's keeping you on a Peace of string
he will real you in when ever he feels then let you out with another excuse
get your self a social life don't look for a b/f
they come when you don't expect them friends are more fun to have around
2007-02-09 01:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard and for that reason u should not bond too much ...leave it casual with no much promisses as 2 years are a long time
u will see what will happen in this two years ... u might say now yes and after a while u meet someone else or u say no and all will work out with ur guy .... so dont get too much into it
best wishes
2007-02-01 04:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have fun and not wait. If you really want to go back to him when he's ready, you can. If not, you don't have to either. You should not be committed to him because he will not be committed to you. 2 years is a long time, and you should experience life to the fullest. Don't let one man ruin your 2 years, just because he is not ready. When he's ready, make a decision. Until then, you should be free to do whatever you want because that's what he's doing.
2007-02-01 04:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go out and enjoy yourself. You are too young
to say that you will wait on him for 2 years. A lot can
happen in that time.
2007-02-08 23:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't recommend it. It would be very disappointing to wait and then find out that it won't work out. It would be better to continue to see others, then decide later what to do. This is a big time of your life for meeting someone special.
2007-02-01 04:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a long distance relationship for over 3 yrs.
Its very hard, it gets very expensive to visit each other.
Go on with your life and see how you feel later on.
2007-02-01 04:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Scotty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋