We started in may and it was okay. No one really wanted us to be together so there were constant rumors of me cheating on her or her cheating on me. She's been hurt bad before so i dont blame her for some of the mean things she does. When we started she told me she expected me to cheat. Starting me off against a wall already. We would say horrible things to eachother and people heard that and would say our relationship was weird. But the way we showed eachother was nice we wrote letters to eachother and i get her cards and flowers to assure her that im here for her. But i guess one day she let the rumors get to her and she ended it. She wont tell me why. She'll say she doesnt love but she cant look at me to say it. she says shes moved on but she cant tell me who. She wrote in a letter that she couldnt look me in the eye because of how she felt. The way she presented it seemed like love. She still cant look at me and when she does she looks away as fast as she can.
2007-02-01 04:14:58 · 8 answers · asked by Mike B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She won't allow anyone to love her, cause she doesn't love herself.
If she told you point blank at first you shouldn't have gotten involved.
You can't fix her boo boo. She has to deal with it and heal herself before she is ever ready for another realationship.
She also has to forgive herself for getting used and hurt.
She has to let go of the past, otherwise she will pigeon-hole every man in her life as being the same moron that ditched her.
This is a battle you will never win, you have to get on with something else and not waste anymore energy here trying to understand.
I think after your tumultuous relationship with her, you have a different perspective on what some relationships are all about.
That last one with you two was not normal, cause she doesn't know normal, but I am surprised you stooped to her level.
Perhaps a little more kindness and normalicy in your next one would be of benefit to you.
If you live in the hole with them you become a cave dweller yourself in short order.
2007-02-01 04:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a head game. She is needy and you cannot fill up a well that has a gaping hole at the bottem. You are not her therapist. If she is so hyper sensitive to being dumped or cheated on or treated badly, then why is it ok that she handle it this way--without any explanation? I believe she wants you to run after her begging and crying. Don't do it. Be a man and let her go. She will come back but do you really want someone like this? Do you?
2007-02-01 04:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a toxic relationship to me. Do you really want to spend a life of games and angry words?
My feeling is she already has another dude and that is why she doesn't look you in the eye. The most jealous and accusatory person is the cheater themself--remember that.
I sense you are pretty young and such relationships seem all the more attractive in their tension. The truth is they are bad relationships. Don't let her Karma bring you down. Find another relationship that feels "Good", you might be surprised you ever went out in the first place.
2007-02-01 04:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Eric K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have sat here and thought about why she would do this. I havent came up with a single reason. She sounds scared a little, but arent we all? I honestly think you need to move on. If she wishes to rekindle your relationship in the future she will. If you persue this more, she may never be open to rekindling it later in life.
I think you gotta just let it go for now. Let her have her space and you take some time too. Date other women, get outta the house and mingle.....see if your feelings change for her.
She may be the one for you, but you need to give her the oppurtunity to see if you are the one for her.
Time will tell.
She will be back if you are the one.
Good luck.
2007-02-01 04:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something in her past she doesn't want you to know about. She would tell you if she thought you could handle it and what not, but you might not ever find out. I think she's trying to protect you. Just let her know that you'll love her regardless and be there for her. When she's ready to tell you, she will.
2007-02-01 04:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by padiwan2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is very wierd sometimes. there can be peer pressure or may be commitment phobiac habits. just move on in life
2007-02-01 04:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Muskan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With her history, I'll guarantee she's been unfaithful from the start. MOVE ON! (and get an hiv test)
2007-02-01 04:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋