and I am awful at it. Sometimes the no no's she does are funny but still no no's, so when I tell her no sternly or try to deter her to something else...I laugh and that only makes her think its ok. How do I stop my daughter or help her learn that playing in the toilet is a BIG no and that hitting is not nice?
2007-02-01 04:10:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's hard to discipline such a young child. It's more about setting limits and sticking to them. As she grows it will become more and more difficult though. Just remember to be strong and stand firm, no matter how cute and delicious she is. Setting limits now will be better for you and her in the future. Just keep her out of the bathroom and when she hits, tell her no. Don't laugh at it because you're reinforcing the negative behavior. Good luck and enjoy her.
2007-02-01 04:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1... stop thinking of it as discipline... and start thinking of it as teaching proper behavior...
once you get the idea you are teaching her in your way of thinking it will get easier... 14 months is hard... you can't address everything... basically restrict access to the toilet... keep them away from things they shouldn't be doing...
Focus on the social interaction type behavior like the hitting... but remember they learn from you... so if you loose your temper and yell no all the time well ... you are teaching them that yelling is ok...
Here is a sample of something you can try... when they hit... you calmly tell them "you don't hit... it isn't nice"... immediatly pick them up and put them in the corner to sit... or on a step... or something... (use the same spot as much as possible)...
after a minute (times their age)... let them out... and explain again why hitting isn't nice and suggest an appropriate behaivor...
Part of the difficulty is modeling proper behavior when disciplining... remember to stay calm but be firm... stern... or serious...
2007-02-01 04:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well start by not laughing or at least hold in your laugh until she isn't watching. Give her a resting seat. Its like a time out but you call it a rest. When she hits put her in her resting chair.
The best way to time is one minute per year of age. When you put her in her chair explain to her that she needs a rest. Once you have established the resting spot when she begins to misbehave just remind her and ask her do you need a rest? Children comprehend a lot more than us adults give credit for. She'll get the point but you have to be consistent if she gets up before her minute is over make her sit back down or maybe hold her in you lap for a minute until she gets it.
2007-02-01 04:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by holyghost filled 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my 14 month old son too, all his mischiefs makes me want to laugh, I've never had such a messy house in my life til he start to explore. But definitely don't let them see that you're laughing, else they'll be 10 times more mischievous.
I usually hold on to his wrist with a tight grip, shaking my head and saying no no at the same time, now he start to shake his own head, if he did something bad, ( oh well as long as he knows it's wrong)
2007-02-01 04:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A few things; STOP laughing at her, learn to say NO and do NOT allow her to be the parent!
Before I had my first child, I loved children but also knew I did NOT want them to walk all over me. I leanred to say NO really fast and remained stern with my decisions. All 3 respected and loved me. They knew I was the parent and they also knew we had fun together.
The first time my oldest fell - the first thing I wanted to do was to rush over to him, pick him up and hug him - but, I knew if I did I would be promoting bad habits - so I just sat on my hands, kept a serious face and told him "well, get up and try it again".
When he would play outside, come running into the house while crying about being hurt, I would look at it and say "I don't see any blood - so no bandage. Go back out and play". It was extremely hard for me to say these things but I knew if I didn't - then he would develop really bad habits that would be hard to straighten out later on. I had to stand firm and not give into him.
I know it sounds like I was really 'cold' and 'uncaring' but I really wasn't - I just did my job as a parent.
2007-02-01 08:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trick is to be consistent and don't supply up!! The "naughty spot" has labored for me. the guideline is a million minute according to 3 hundred and sixty 5 days lived (2 years=2 minutes). you may % everywhere interior the abode or basically purchase an low-cost bath rug, and designate it because of the fact the "naughty spot". No toys allowed interior the spot!! that is going to be particularly of artwork interior the beginning up, until your son is familiar with that he won't be able to flow from the spot until you're saying so, so which you're able to desire to maintain bringing him in, yet after a whilst he will basically walk via himself as quickly as he's advised. that is considerable that on the tip, you consult with him an enable him be attentive to why you placed him interior the "naughty spot". A hug, kiss, and that i such as you it is likewise intense-high quality at this factor! =P that could be a naughty nook, spot, chair, bench, etc, as long as he's sitting or status there via himself with out any distraction (toys, crayons, books, etc.)
2016-11-02 01:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time outs are starting to work for my 16-month old, but the time outs are really short, perhaps about 1 minute. But really, all I can suggest is this: If she's into something she shouldn't be, or is biting or hitting, remove her. Say something like "NO hitting!" And you can't laugh. :) That's a sign of approval.
2007-02-01 04:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by Deannaizme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to bend down to her level and firmly say NO. everytime she does it keep telling her no on her level...plus you should put her in a timeout chair. keep repeating yourself over and over again. eventually after a few times she will learn that playing in the potty is not good. then she will stop...repitition helps with everything..just like learning how to play the piano...you don't become a master musician after playing just once, so i why should people think that their child will learn after the first time? not saying that you think that way. so just try it out a few times....patience is key in this exercise, but the results can be rewarding. good luck and have a nice day!
2007-02-01 04:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tough isn't it? I don't think they can be taught at that age. You just have to keep a straight face and say 'no' and move her away from the danger. If she hits tell her 'no' and gently stop her doing it.
Do not hit her - ever. When my little one started getting mobile and got into things I didn't want her to I used to pat her hands and say 'no', but then I realised that wld tell her it was okay to hit so I stopped...
2007-02-01 04:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to discipline children at this age. You just have to stick with it. Put her repeatedly in time outs and stay with her explaining what she did wrong. Tell her that you are sad if she does this and that its not okay. She will understand if you are stern and consequent. Check a great book about raising responsible and loving children: "Love and Logic" ...www.loveandlogic.com
2007-02-01 04:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by betti_moni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋