How cute is this dog:
http://search.petfinder.com/petnote/displaypet.cgi?petid=7340459
But I already have a dog that my fiance doesn't like all that much and is allergic to (Candy the schnauzer mix is most likely hypo-allergenic cause it looks like she has the schnauzer coat). And he says he doesn't want me to get this dog b/c he really wants to get his OWN dog, and he ultimately doesn't want to have 3 dogs.
But I am a HUGE dog lover and would LOVE multiple dogs, and have wanted another dog for a year now. He keeps saying he'll get one but hasn't ever even looked into it. Another tidbit: we live in a one-bedroom apartment.
Am I wrong to be upset that he says no to me getting another dog?
2007-02-01 04:00:37 · 12 answers · asked by sjbchapman 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Our apartment is large enough for another small dog, and the shelter wants candy to be the 2nd in a two-dog home
2007-02-01 04:21:48 · update #1
the reason why your fiance wants to get dog he likes is that he does not had opportunities to get the ones he really likes.
.when the time he gets what he wants and he realized he can't raise one he would stop arguing anymore and give up the dog he wants, that is the time to give up for him and get the one that you like.
you are a dog lover, you can deal with the dog he wants until he gave up.. but for him to get the one you like and him feeling pressured of having 2 dogs around that he does not like and no ideas of raising a dog would be very hard.. give him a chance to raise the dog he wants with you together.. and when the time you can afford to have 3 on the house, he might be able to help you around taking care of them and moving into a larger house.
men need respect, and in return they give love, if he says no for a reason, he feels disrespected..but when he feels he is being respected, you will get the dog you want . in some cases..
there is no need to be upset but to understand each other over the dog issue. make each other suggestion and plans before you both agree.
this is just a suggestion..but hope it helps.I won't comment about the marriage because you never mentioned anything about this.. both of you will decide what is the best for both of you in the future.
. if your fiance would have given a chance to have his own , he would find a reason why you should get your new one
Hoping for a real joy in your life together....
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2007-02-01 07:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i visit anticipate by using skill of your question and the replies which you and your fiance are the two decrease than 30 years previous. i in my view experience that once you're waiting and mature adequate to embark on an entire life committment, something this trivial should not be counted. additionally, in case you ought to ask suggestion from finished strangers concerning your relationship, you're no longer waiting for marriage. yet nevertheless, many durable marriages began with issues much less extreme. do no longer blow issues out of share, it grew to become into only a telephone call. in case you won't be able to have a good and open communique to communicate this, then perhaps you ought to attend a together as to get married.
2016-09-28 06:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I am with the other person who said get the dog and dump the fiance . He does not sound like much of a dog lover and you are willing to marry this guy ? he does not sound like he is the right person for you . I would find me someone who as big a dog lover as I am . good luck and I hope you are able to work it out.
2007-02-01 07:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many issues here. I hope the wedding is many months away, because I don't think you are ready for marriage yet.
One bedroom apt? That's not much room for one active dog, let alone two or three. Will the apartment complex let you have multiple Dogs? You should be concentrating on your marriage plans and not pets? Like I said, so many issues to work out before marrying someone.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 04:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..it's not wrong to be upset but having 2 dogs in a small apartment is not a great idea. I am also thinking that the shelter that has Candy would frown upon that as well. They would also frown upon the fact that your fiance does not want the dog. Both people have to want it.
2007-02-01 04:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, am a bit confused....he is allergic to a pretty hypoallergenic dog, but wants another one...aside from poodles & schnauzers, he may be outta luck! I think wait & think hard about this marriage.
2007-02-01 04:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by piethedog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about compromise, honey. Your fiance is already dealing with your dog, which he doesn't like. You should give a little too, and consent to not get another dog.
2007-02-01 05:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide which is more important to you, having multiple dogs or this man. Once you've made your choice, stick with it and don't nag at him. It's either "I WILL have all the dogs I want, if you want to marry me then deal with it" or "I would rather have you, I'll be happy to limit my number of dogs to one of mine and one of yours." Make your choice, then let him make his......
Be glad you're finding out these issues now, instead of after you're married.
2007-02-01 04:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by DaBasset - BYBs kill dogs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get the dog & dump the fiancee!
2007-02-01 04:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to your fiance he don't no what he talking about. unless he bought the House then a different story
2007-02-01 11:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋