I'm a stepmother of 3 kids, ages 4,6, 10 and I've become depressed with life. What would be some good hobbies that would hopefully help me smile more?
2007-02-01 03:57:16 · 7 answers · asked by Melba 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What did you used to do before you became a stepmother to three? I'm a stepmother too, and I've found that in my attempt to be the perfect mother and to win over my step children I allowed my live to revolve around them - to the exclusion of me time. Don't feel guilty hiring a sitter or asking their Dad to stay home while you go do something for yourself. Do you like to read? Join a book club. Like to knit or crochet? Start a new project. Paint? draw? sign up for an art class. Trust me - you will be happier if you do something for yourself, and if Mama's happy, everybody's happy.
2007-02-01 05:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are probably two things you need to do. One is to be more active. Exercise will help lift depression. The other thing is to be around people more. If you are home with the 4 yo, then take the kid to the park, a play place, the library story time. You'll meet other mothers with kids the same ages. You could volunteer at the school of the other two kids. Invite one of your friends' kids over with the mother for an 'afternoon tea.' Join a gym and go to the aerobics classes - you'll meet people plus get moving. Join a book club at the library. Take a cake-decorating course at Hobby Lobby/Michael's. Take a class at the local college. Sometimes they even offer aerobics or swimming. Get a job.
2007-02-01 12:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've always loved arts and crafts. You should take up a new craft, learn how to do beading and make jewelry. If you are good enough you could even sell some and make a few extra bucks. OR take online courses and further your education. Perhaps you need to get out of the house more....learn a sport like golf or tennis, so you can meet and talk to people your own age. Good Luck
2007-02-01 12:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. You need to figure out what the kids all like. Maybe skating, art (a lot of things to make together in that area), playing board games, have a movie night, etc... I know it will be hard but as a stepmother you have to prove how much you love them. It sucks but later on in life they'll know how much you tried to have a relationship with them.
2007-02-01 13:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rockin' Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any pictures, maybe you can start scrap booking. or invest in a black & white camera & take pictures with it. umm also do you like to do the whole shabang with the pedicures,manicures,
facial,hair; thats always fun? start working out when ever im feeling like crap(depressed) i have to get on the tread mill. Excersise relieves the toxins in your body that are making you feel this way.hope i helped a little, i know what your going through, it's tough!
2007-02-01 12:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with the kids...people don't know this, but kids really do make your day feel better. make crafts and bake cookies. it helps them get closer to you and for you to get closer to them.
2007-02-01 12:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cooking, baking, music listening, read books bout kids, and having more fun with the kids...
2007-02-02 12:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Pianoholic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋