I know this guy for 5 years.I was his first friend.Now feel him something more then friend.Should i do the first move and tell him how i am feeling.I am to shy to ask him just if he likes me.Can you help me with this?And no spams please.
2007-02-01 03:46:08 · 13 answers · asked by Alexander Rybak #1 fan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Honey, only you know if you are too shy to do this. If you have the courage, then tell him... if you don't, wait a few years until you have the maturity to do so.
If you are looking for an easier way to do it, you could try writing him a note (but notes can fall into the wrong hands, so saying it in person is usually the best - if scariest - option).
I used to be super-shy, too, and I found the best way to get over it is to ask yourself two questions:
1) Am I doing anything wrong or shameful? If not, then I have nothing to regret by doing this.
2) Then ask yourself, what is the absolute *worst* that could happen, and how would I deal with that? For example, If he laughs at me or tells everyone what I said, then he's a jerk and not worth my time - I can still hold my head up and be proud because I've done nothing wrong, and have nothing to be embarassed about. If he is nice but tells me he doesn't feel the same way about me, then I can keep on being friends with him and find a new crush.
2007-02-01 03:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...on the one hand I think that being up-front with a guy is always the best policy. On the other hand, I was in the same situation a while ago and got burned pretty badly when I told him.
My best advice is to exercise extreme caution. Take baby steps- flirt with him, compliment him, test the waters before you dive right in. And if he figures out that you like him on his own, then you may not have to take the plunge at all.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 11:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know is to ask.
You don't have to ask him outright, but you can be more flirty than you have been.
Start slow, but make sure you make physical contact with him. Whether it is touching his hand or arm, or bumping him with your shoulder/hip as you walk and banter, a little contact sends the message that you like the contact. Eventually, give him a spontaneous hug.
Try to spend some time one-on-one. It doesn't have to be a date, but it can feel like one after you do a few of them.
Of course, many men (especially young ones) don't recognize this as a woman flirting with intent. And your biggest hurdle may be that he now views you as a friend only, which means he often intentionally thinks of you as "not available". Guys sometimes do that so they don't act like a horndog.
But it is a start, and you will start to feel more comfortabe around him after some sorta innocent physical contact. It may give you the courage to speak your feelings to him.
2007-02-01 12:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Garylian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should do what you feel is best. If you really care about him and you want to tell him how you feel then go ahead. If you are afraid that it will mess up your friendship, dont be. If he is a real friend, then he will not reject you because you told him you like him. Maybe he likes you back . You will never know untill you tell him. If you do and he doesnt, it will be ok. At least you had the courage to tell him than to keep it to yourself. You need to listen to your heart and it will tell you what to do.
2007-02-01 12:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by blueyes0692 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are shy but feel that you can talk to him. Ask him if he minds you talking to him. Thank him if he does listen and say you would like to talk to him again. Things will grow from this if he is the right person for you.
2007-02-01 12:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Oldie from Bristol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JOE-YOU'RE THE IDIOT-YOU CAN'T EVEN SPELL-LOL. ANY WHO, LOOK IF HE REALLY LIKED YOU-AND YOU KNOW HE IS THE TYPE THAT WILL ASK A GIRL OUT, EVEN IF HE IS SHY, BECAUSE HE IS DETERMINED TO KNOW, DON'T TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM, LET HIM MAKE THE FIRST MOVE, BECAUSE IF HE IS THE TYPE THAT WILL ASK A GIRLS OUT-MOST LIKELY HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU LIKE THAT, SINCE HE HASN'T MADE A MOVE-TRUST. LET HIM DO THE MOVE, IF HE IS REALLY INTO YOU, HE WON'T HESITATE. OTHER WISE, YOU ARE JUST ASKING TO RUIN THE FRIENDSHIP OVER THIS...LET NATURE TAKE IT'S COURSE. :)
2007-02-01 12:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you feel and put no pressure on him. Keep the friendship but you take a risk telling him what you feel but in the long run I think it allways pays to tell the truth. good luck
2007-02-01 11:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by john j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to ask yourself what is the worst that could happen? Just go for it, its better that wondering.
2007-02-01 11:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would make it known to him - every guy likes it when a girl says she likes him - well as for me i would.
2007-02-01 11:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask worst he says he dont feel the same
2007-02-01 11:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋