was seeing a guy i work with and split up just before xmas.... he says that he is now back with his ex....im happy for him, honest! but he keeps hugging me and kissing me on the cheek,asking me if i miss him when we`re not at work ... starting conversations with me.. mostly flirty,inuendos refering back to "us"...... when i dont return the hugs or the inuendos like i used to, he goes off and has loud convesation with fellow colleagues about his current g/f and sometimes..their sex life!... it is starting to annoy me, i want to go to work ....to work! not to feel uncomfortable..sometimes i will avoid him so that i dont have to talk/listen to him. i want to shout at him "leave me alone" but i cant cause we have to work to together and i dont want an atmosphere..i dont know if he`s acting like this cause he still likes me and wants me to react back or he is trying to wind me up and hurt me. how can i deal with this, im dreading going to work!
2007-02-01 03:45:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, just igmore him and soon, when he sees his little game doesn't work, he'll stop
2007-02-01 03:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be professional, tell him that an Ex is an Ex for a reason! Ever time he hugs you, you should step on his toes with your heals and dig it in, and apologise every so politely! He will soon stop hugging you after a few times. As for the kissing, eat lots of smell spicy food. As for missing him when your not at work, tell him you have a toy to take care of that and you have bought shares with Duracell
2007-02-01 05:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by Susan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to show him you're obviously more mature about the situation and have a word with him.
If he doesn't stop harrassing you, report him to your manager. Or alternatively, look for another job. He's obviously not worth making you dread to go to work and it may be the best solution.
I met my OH at work 4 years ago, but it was easier cos he was on site and I was in the office. We're still together but I've since left the company. Not because of that, because of money, I am now on £10k more.
2007-02-01 03:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by dadn33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you past time together as a method of control. He is power hungry and dangerous and may even end up with making your employment impossible.
You need to get help from your superior and you need to get this person on your side.
this man is acting wrongly but the problem is that he knows it!
You are in a very sticky position and I don't envy you as I have been there!
2007-02-01 05:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 06:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the new love of his life is not measuring up and he wants you to act like you still care for him. his ego is suffering, but if i were you i would take him aside and tell him, look i am happy that you have someone else, i don't think that it is appropriate that you keep trying to get me to relive our past. i am here to do my job and if you are having a problem with working with me here i can talk to our boss about having us work where we don't have to be in such close proximity, or i can ask your girlfriend to have a talk with you about how you act toward me at work, you decide which it will be because i am not going to continue to tolerate this behavior. then just walk away.
2007-02-01 03:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, just tell him to get on with his life, and to stop manhandling you.If you dont tell him to back off, whether you work together or not, it will lead to one of you leaving, and why should that be you. TELL him where to go, or tell his girlfriend. I have seen this before, it wont work unless you say something.
2007-02-01 04:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by archaeologia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one to understand. some guy's are like that and don't think about what you may be going thew. if you can take it anymore then you need to have a talk with him and shair some of your feelings I am sure it will help some. He will then know where your comming from. good luck....
2007-02-01 03:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you worried about hurting this guy after all you two are no longer an item. Mabye you should threaten to warn his girlfriend, that might do it.
2007-02-01 03:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your seeing someone else...like dont say "I have a new boyfriend." or anything. just say like "Ya I went out with my boyfriend the other day or something." Thats what I say to my ex gf since she cheated on me and she got the hint i didnt like her.
2007-02-01 03:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by The J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girla ll i gotta say is if you tell him to stop nicely and he keeps on bothering you thats when it goes down. tell him off dont be scared you see like a nice person but when it comes to that and you asked nice like 1000 times then thats when your mean side needs to come to take that from him. women are powerful when we say stop then you need to stop
2007-02-01 03:50:05 · answer #11 · answered by ashley c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋