So, me & my ex have been broken up for more than a year now. Since we broke up, we've still been talking. & we can still go to each other to talk about basically anything just like when we were going out. He's gone out 2 other girls already & he still talks to me. He's still with one of them, but he's thinking about breaking up with them, he told me the whole story. I don't know if he's going to break up with her or not because he told me that he's never broken up with anyone before. & the other night when we were talking he told me that he loved me still & he always did. I don't know to think. I felt like a rebound when we were first going out, I don't know what to think now. I'm always going to be his friend, I just don't know if I can be his girlfriend again.
2007-02-01 03:40:59 · 7 answers · asked by _____ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is very possible for people to break up and still feel a tenderness, a longing, a love for that other person. But, more than possibly, it is not the kind of love that will keep you together. There are many kinds of love. Some kinds of love do not stand the pressure of being together day after day till death do both apart. You say he loves you but there is doubt in your mind. You didn't say you loved him and that could be all the difference. He's not offering you the kind of love that you want and until he does it will all feel like some familiar pattern of disappointment and failure.
2007-02-08 21:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the feeling of "love" that he most likely has now, is the feeling that he has when remembering the good times, and the caring attitude you both had together and how much he still wants to be a part of your life. You two are talking regularly which intensifies the post-relationship friendship. For the most part, his reaction is normal (from my point of view). He is an EX for a reason, it doesn't matter who initiated the split... For your sanity, keep it that way and remain as friends only.
When you see him, don't flirt by touching him, and don't let him touch you in a way that he did when you were together. You'll confuse him and he'll start to believe there is a chance to get back with you.
2007-02-01 03:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means that even though he has been with other girls, none of them have compared to how he's felt about you! In reality you two have been friends since you broke up, however on the inside he has been loving you all this time, and it most likely has been painful for him to just be friend with you. However when you love someone so much you end up being a glutton for punishment anyhow. If you love him take him back. real love and trust can be rare and shouldn't be wasted.
2007-02-01 03:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now, just remain good friends. He's dating others & you need to do the same. If it's meant for you two to become more than friends again, in the future, you'll both know it. You seem a bit confused yourself about how you really feel, so give yourself some space & time. When "red flags" go up in any relationship, heed them & procede with caution, & spare yourself from being hurt.
2007-02-01 03:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is confused and he is confusing you too. You sound like you know what you want and I would trust my instincts if I were you. Just think if you can trust him enough to do it again. Don't think about emotions but use common sense.
2007-02-01 03:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ummm thats hard to say...its easy to still hold feelings for someone you cared about...but if you dont think you can be his gf again...then maybe you should just wait and see what happens...
2007-02-01 03:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUH remember why he became your EX
2007-02-01 03:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by danniselv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋