Ever since I can remember my sister & I ALWAYS cleaned the house (I'm 19 now). It's a beautiful house that was built about 8 years ago, and it kills me to see it ALWAYS MESSY.
I'm going to be brutally honest- the only person in the house who makes a mess is my MOM. She comes home from work and just eats and sits on the couch. I wouldn't even put it all on her, but SHE IS THE ONE who makes the mess. Any crap around the house is from HER.
She keeps "her papers" ALL OVER THE PLACE. She has 4 hampers half full with clothes and clothing everywhere. I can't take it anymore. I can't even count how many times I've cleaned the house, only for it to become totally trashed 3 hours after my mom comes home. I'll clean her mess, and when she comes home, suddenly her papers and just straight up junk is all over the kitchen table. We can't even eat dinner as a family. There's always "papers" all over the table when we eat.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!
2007-02-01 03:37:45 · 7 answers · asked by :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just cleaned up the living room and the hallway. It took me 3 hours. I went into her room, and I just want to throw all of her papers in a box and all of her clothes in one hamper. It's disgusting and it smells in her room. Her bathroom is grosse. I can't I can't I can't deal with this............!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-01 03:39:03 · update #1
What do I do!!!!!!! I would get on her case about it when I was younger, but me and my sister have just given up over the past 3 years. We don't even clean because we know it will be a mess when my mom gets home.
2007-02-01 03:39:59 · update #2
Yes, my father is in the picture. He is a complete neat freak. I asked him about it and he said, "you'll understand when you're married."
YES I have a job. I work full time and go to school full time.
2007-02-01 03:44:50 · update #3
first, it is not your responsibility to clean after you mom. second your father is not helping matters, he seems to have given up in this area. you go to school and work. you never stated why you don't feel like you can move out, but if this is not an option, tell your mom and dad that you will be responsible for your living areas, but that you will no longer be a maid to your mom. if she can not pick up after herself then you will look for someone to do it. at her expense. then start looking for ways to move out.
2007-02-01 04:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I married a man like that and it drives me crazy!! At least you have the option of moving out!!
Maybe just clean an area for you and put your mom's stuff all in her room. If you just had, say, the dining room table and the kitchen and the living room clean, it would make you feel better. Don't try to 'clean' up her messes - just put her things in her room.
2007-02-01 03:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are of legal age and living in your parents' house out of convenience. You say that you work but didn't mention paying rent or having a cohabitation agreement. Thank your mother for allowing you to live in a home where people love you and not tossing you out for being too critical. If the mess bothers you- keep cleaning it up. If it bothers you too much - move out. My brother is doing the same thing at my parents' house. He hates the way my parents live enough to gripe about it, but not enough to pay his own mortage.
2007-02-01 05:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Pedeka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 19, so move out to a place of your own and keep it as clean as you like. However, as long as you are reaping the benefits of living in the house your mother is working to pay for, be quiet and mind your own business.
2007-02-01 03:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does your mom pay the bills or do you work. If you work then you have a beef. If not then do your job while you mom supports you. I guess dads out of the picture. That makes it tough, good luck. Messyness is a physchological disorder and its not easy to cure.
2007-02-01 03:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by KIB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a weekly maid service and have her pay for it!
2007-02-01 03:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out, its her house she can live the way she wants to
2007-02-01 03:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋