Is it fair to have them drive 50 minutes to go to my wedding? I found a place that is beautiful, it is also 35 minutes from where I live. Should it matter?
2007-02-01 03:34:47 · 27 answers · asked by redsoxgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First, you aren't making anyone do anything. Second, your wedding, your plans. If you are worried that special people will not come or will resent the drive, then talk to them about what you want to do and then judge whether any conditions on their presence is worth any compromises of your desires. In Houston, we drive very long distances routinely (it's a big city), so an hour drive is commonplace, and we might expect a longer drive for a special event like a wedding, but not complain about it being closer of course.
My short answer: It is fair to choose a place which meets your highest approval and brings the all of the people who you absolutely want to be at the wedding to enjoy it with you. No one should be complaining about 35-60 min drives to a wedding. Assuming that you weren't deliberately trying to make one side of the family travel much farther than the other side, then all is fair. If any person objects, though, then that is their right, and you may need to consider the importance of their presence and approval, and also whether their objection merits sacrificing any substantial part of your happiness and of your once in a lifetime (hopefully) special event.
BTW, any change of plans based on the request of one individual will signal partiality (unfairness), and it would be your duty to show that consideration was made for the best interests of all parties equally.
2007-02-01 04:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it shouldn't matter. 50 mins is really not that far. Especially if it is for a relative's wedding. Not unreasonable at all. You mention a place 35 mins for where you live but didn't mention in which direction. Closer to your family or further? Either way, it doesn't matter either. Even if it's further, I don't see a big issue in anyone having to travel approx 1-1/2 hrs for the wedding (well, so long as it's not ski country in the dead of winter, lol). Still reasonable travelling distance for a function such as a wedding. I've travelled more than that distance for friends, not to mention family. Have your wedding where you want. Everyone will come and those who don't, you probably wouldn't have wanted there anyway, lol. Do what you want, relax, and enjoy your day!
2007-02-01 03:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ur wedding. If you did everything for your wedding to make people happy it would be a big ol' wreck. You do what u want. It's your one day to shine. Your family shouldn't have any problem driving one hour. Now a days that's nothing. If they don't show up then you can start to weed out the ones that are family and the ones that are relatives. I've got lots of relatives and lots of family. Family are the ones that come to events no matter what and don't get upset. Relatives are the ones that get mad and complain from the time they get there till the time they leave. So you do what u want for YOUR DAY. It's no ones day but your own. If they complain then they don't need to come. Less guest you have to worry about. That's what I say.
2007-02-01 08:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's no big deal in my book. Most of my guest are coming from out of state, others are driving at least 45 minutes, sometimes travel is part of a wedding. Just be sure to send out invites with instructions on how to get there & send them in enough time for people to know they are going to have to travel some.
2007-02-01 11:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding have it where you like, just keep in mind that some will have to return home afterwards.I would make it an early wedding for that reason alone.That way they will not be missing any part of the wedding.Then again you could ask the ones involved and they may want a reception and dancing...good luck with the wedding....
2007-02-01 03:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh its not a big drive that is nothing we had to drive about 4 hrs for my brothers wedding and my parents drove it and my sister drove 8 hrs for his wedding believe me your parents will go anywhere when you get married because they love you. When my other brother got married we had a wedding in town and then we went out of town to the reception and that was a 35 min. drive. People go believe me they will support you anywhere you get married. Good luck and go for it.
2007-02-01 16:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the wedding where you want it. I got married 8 hours away from my inlaws......they had to pay for airfare and hotel and meals (other than the planned wedding meals). What you could do, is have the reception directly follow the ceremony. This way your guests don't have to wait for 2 hours after the ceremony with no place to go. Good luck and Congratulation!
2007-02-01 05:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kirsten 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they don't like it, they won't come.
It's your wedding. Optimally, it's your ONLY wedding. Anyone who cares at you won't be swayed by what really isn't that bad a drive.
You might ask some folks to help arrange car pools for those concerned about the drive -- either because they're older, don't have reliable cars, or intend to have a couple of drinks at the reception.
2007-02-01 03:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very short drive actually. You get married where you want to. Your family and friends will deal with it and enjoy the celebration of a new partnership in marriage.
So in answer to your question, no, it doesn't matter.
2007-02-01 03:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your wedding wherever you want. Your friends and family that love you will be there no matter how far they have to drive! What's 50 mins. anyway?
2007-02-01 03:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋