My b.f. and I are constantly fighting. I love him dearly. But, I'm not sure if he loves me anymore. We go to his friends house and he sits and cuddles with his 12 year old daughter. Plays with her hair asks if shes ready to leave.....never even notices I'm alive. She is failing school. But he refuses to disipline her cause he says she has enough problems he don't want to add to it. And now he uses sex as punishment for me if I do or say ANYTHING to her. I asked him to go away with me friday....he said NO! He will go away with his friends at work but not me. Should I just give up and move on? BTW....we live together and that makes things worse. Help!!
2007-02-01 03:34:21 · 10 answers · asked by Lor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like a pretty miserable situation....why would you want to stay?
2007-02-01 03:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
A couple of different things are going on here, I think. But the main thing to ask yourself is this, is he giving me what I need in this relationship? This doesn't mean you have to pack your bags today and leave since you live together. Give yourself some space from the relationship by mentally and financially preparing to leave. I wouldn't even talk about it really. This, I feel, will also give you more confidence in yourself. Two things might happen... you'll realize that you don't need the relationship or he'll realize he does need you in his life. Either way, you'll be better at the end.
2007-02-01 03:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by A B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This guy should not be touching a 12 year old girl!!! What is he a furture child molester!! that would give me the chills too!! Sound like he's trying to piss you off. I would walk out the door and move on with your life. What a creep!. you deserve better.
2007-02-01 03:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well he needs to grow up, but if he is being a bad parent to her that is not something you can change, but think about how he would be with your children. And how is he using sex as punishment? he won't have sex if you discpline his daughter? i think he has some major issues..maybe you need to start saving money to leave and find a roommate! You don't need his immature drama
2007-02-01 03:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't get too hasty. it does sound like the flame is getting smaller in your relationship. you could have a serious talk with him to see what he thinks, or you could just leave him. it all depends on how you feel. seems like you seem to care for him, but he seems indifferent to you. i never just say "leave the bastard" without giving people the piece of advice of talking, but he seems to not really want to be with you anymore and is too scared to tell you. you should make the first move (whether it be talk or leave) or you may be in this situation for a longer period of time then you have to be. good luck
2007-02-01 03:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey gurl.. i think u must do sth to make him feel that u really is fond of all what he is doing.. but u know .. from ur words i felt like he doesnt love u .. how could he love u and then he punishes u by sex ??? .. i think u have to loook for someone who cares for u and really deserves u ...if i were u, i would leave him away.. u will meet hundreds of people and u will meet some one who will apriciate u... i know its hard to leave someone u love.. but u have to try .. and that's ma opinoin :)
2007-02-01 03:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is emotionaly abusive..i was with a guy for 10 years..everything i did was never good enough..he would leave me home with the kids while he went on vacation with his friends and THEIR wives..it was horrible..it wont change, you will always be last on his list because he knows you will put up with it..although kids are first he needs to listen to your needs too, and consider your feelings, but those type of men dont..
2007-02-01 03:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time for a new guy. He needs to pay you some attention, and he can't handle both, he needs to be with his daughter, and you need to be with someone who will give you the time.
2007-02-01 03:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's his daughter, it's his flesh and blood! He loves her, and he should! You shouldn't expect him to put her aside for you. He shouldn't do that anyway. If you can't live with the arrangement, then find another man
2007-02-01 03:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by CJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him lady dump him no matter what the consequence say it with me
HE IS NOT WORTH IT
HE IS NOT WORTH IT
HE IS NOT WORTH IT
2007-02-01 03:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by UndeadNitemare 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋