My brother moved to VA with me for a better enviornment. Upon coming he had a plan to save and go to school. My fiance wants me to move with him to save money for a home however, he lives in another state which is about 30 miles from where I am now. My brother do not want to move to my fiance state with me. My brother is not able to help me with rent so I know he can't afford his own place. My brother have no follow through with his plans. He has no money saved and he did not enroll in school. He wants to start his own snow plowing business in a state that has little to no snow. I am the only relative he has in this state. What should I do?
2007-02-01 03:34:03 · 5 answers · asked by Chitea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, you are being so nice to your brother, but it sounds like you have made things too comfortable for him. He needs to be out on his own. He will find a way to survive. Right now he is not paying rent, has not saved money, did not enroll in school, has a lifeplan that is NOT going to work, but 'doesn't want' to move with you. Well - he can't have life his way. When he is financially supporting himself then his options will increase, but for now you need to kindly tell him what you are planning to do, and he can either come with you or stay where he is, but that is not your problem. He is not your responsibility, and it is not like you are turning him out with nowhere to go - he could come with you.
2007-02-01 03:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you can't let your brother decide your life....he has plans & he dont want????????
so what! You have a life & you have plans.
If he cant afford his own place he better be lookin, your fiance nor you should have to support him.
Tell him to ask a friend to be a room mate or whatever he needs to do cuz ur moving on with your life.
2007-02-01 03:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the money so he can go back to mummy. He is an obvious no hoper who is just bludging of u. U have a family now go be with your man. Sorry dont mean to be mean but i have one of those living with us full of great ideas but just doesnt do anything about them.
2007-02-01 09:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for him to grow up, its not your job to raise him. he needs to get his **** together. you should tell him you are moving and starting your own life and he needs to make some plans on where he will go and what he will do. loving someone is not always doing everything for them. you can show love for someone by making them do for themselves.
2007-02-01 05:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the brother out and tell the fiance you are not helping him out either. No one helps you out.
2007-02-01 03:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋