I think my daught needs special attention. She is always leaving books in school, or not copying her homework right. I tried taking tv from her, scaring her with threats of a beating, nothing seems to work. I am ready to give up. If she keeps this up she will repeat the grade over again. I don't even think she pays attention in school because she get home and does her homework she acts like she doesn't understand it and it winds up taking her all night.
2007-02-01 03:20:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Talk to her teacher for suggestions. You may need a tutor, or she really may need to repeat the grade. Do whatever you can to avoid drugging her.
Good luck.
2007-02-01 03:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Margie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had her tested for dyslexia or ADD?
If its not a learning disorder then talk to her teachers and find out exactly what her problem is.Threats will get you nowhere.
It boils down to either she cant do the work or she wont.
If its the latter then only she will change in time.
Many kids get bored with school subjects .Does she have the one teacher for all subjects? If so that might be the problem.
Is she being bullied in school?
You need to go through a process of elimination to find the cause and once done you can take the right corrective action
2007-02-01 11:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by bearbrain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you threaten beatings and then don't give her one, she's going to know that what you're saying isn't something she should take seriously. I'm not saying you should beat her (please don't, lol), but I AM saying that you should follow through with the consequences that come out of your mouth. That means taking a moment to make sure that what comes out of your mouth is what you really want. Obviously negative consequences aren't working, so try positive ones. Make a simple chart to track every day she remembers to bring her school supplies home. When she goes through a whole week of getting it right, reward her. Make it simple yet enjoyable. As for actually paying attention in school- if you're not sure one way or another, that means you're falling down on the job yourself. KNOW how you child is doing in school. Set up a conference and be honest with her teacher. Ask for suggestions. Would tutoring be in order? Make sure her teacher knows you're supportive of helping your daughter. Best wishes!
2007-02-01 13:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your daughter has ADHD. The school should offer free testing to determine if this is the problem. Check with the administrator. If they do not offer testing, your local mental health facility will. In the meantime, have her keep a planner and ask her to check off everything she is to do each day before she leaves school. Use a reward system rather than intimidation. If she does not understand her work, see if your school offers tutoring. You must become more proactive and help your daughter before it is too late!
2007-02-01 11:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kja1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like ADD to me. My son has a mild case of this and does some of the same things. We don't believe in medication but I have found some herbs that have been working for him. My doctor approved them. They are from native remedies check out their website. I know that this is very frustrating because I have been dealing with this but you have to try and be patient. They really can't help most of their behaviors if she does have ADD. Good luck
2007-02-01 11:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have ADD\ADHD? You need to stop threatening her with beatings and take her to her Dr. He can probably let you know if it is mental or physical problems she is having. Oh and stop making empty threats, all that does is tell the child they can not count on you doing what you say you will. If you say you'll do it then do it so be careful what you say.
2007-02-01 11:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Diana W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, putting fear in your child with threats of beatings is not going to get you anywhere. There are other options. Talk to her teacher and maybe they can get are para-educator (teachers aid) in the class room to help your daughter become more focused and to ensure she has all of her books and home work assignments.
2007-02-01 11:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say that was a lot like me when I was in school. Here come the good and bad parts, I was bored, the teachers tested my, they found out I was very smart, but bored in class, just try talking to her teachers to see what is going on, she could be a child who talks alot, ( also me). It could even be her vision. I hope thing work out for you and her.
2007-02-01 11:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by becky s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its good to threaten her to beatings. I'll agree with the first person on here, A tutor may help, and/or repeating the grade may help her.
2007-02-01 11:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by bek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered trying to help her with her homework? Or asking the teacher if your daughter is actually doing anything while at school? Try being involved with her schoolwork and it might help.
2007-02-01 11:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋