5-year-old asking about her mother?

Question

I'm 23,a father of a beautiful 5-year-old girl.When I was 16,my friends and I got a bit drunk in a disco late at night and caught a girl age 14 and I raped her.Nobody understood and she didn't abort the baby.When the baby(girl) was born,one of my friends found out and kidnapped it.The raped girl didn't announce in the police cause she was going to give the baby for adoption anyway.Since then my daughter lives with me and she is the person I love most in life and won't leave her for anything.Recently she is asking me about her mother and I'm confused and don't know how to answer.I have always been honest with her and can't lie to her but in that case...what can I tell her?She won't understand a rape and even if she does,she may think it is a good thing - because she loves me very much and we are like best friends rather then like a parent and a child and she may consider the daddy's action is the good one as she always considers.What should I do?

Petetabingo and Willy-Wonka:

When I was 16,I raped the girl,she was PREGNANT 9 MONTHS,and when the baby was born I was already 17.When the baby turn 1 year,I was 18.At 19,she turned 2,at 20 she turned 3,at 21 she turned 4 at 22 she turned 5 and now I'm 23 and she is about to turn 6.WHO CAN'T DO THE MATHS,HA??????

Answer 1

Do you live in Arkansas?

Answer 2

I am 43, and things I have been told, and learned at age 4 and a half still guide me in my everyday life.

Perhaps, you need to come clean with the mother as she is most definitely in daily pain and agony over the loss of her child.

Look at those circumstances that happened in the past as a way that helped shaped you to who you are now. Search the mother out if it is permissible, and confess to her and let her meet her daughter. Seek God out and pray that He will have His hand in this endeavor as He already knows. Just maybe, the mothers forgiveness will protect you from any legalities, as the law forgives after seven years of any crime accept murder which is punishable no matter how much time goes by.

Your daughter may be longing for her mother and can sense that she may still be alive, so definitely get her involved if and when you do meet her mother.

As in telling her, the truth you can tell her that her mom is alive and well, and one day you will meet her. You can figure out what to tell her then with the mothers approval.

Good luck

RD

Answer 3

Wow, what a story! You first need to get in touch with mother and make sure that she knows her baby is healthy, alive and being taken care of. There has to be a way to get in touch with her without getting you in trouble which you realize you are in anyhow. Why did you not contact the girl and legally take the baby instead of kidnapping? I realize your love for your daughter is great, but your daughter is going to continue asking you about her mommy. For now, I would tell her that her mother is away and maybe one day she will visit. You need to straighten out the past before you can go on or you will have to lie to your daughter for the rest your life. Can you do that? Only you know for sure.

Answer 4

This tale is so awful. this is rather annoying. Pedophiles deserve the dying penalty. it is so common as that. I endure in innovations examining that this is psychologically shown that pedophiles won't be able to be cured. this is why it makes me ill that folk could be released for molesting a baby or exposing themselves to a baby. they do no longer should be strolling around. that could sound harsh, yet this is how i've got self belief. this is greater advantageous they go through then ruining some damaging harmless baby's existence. And that mom is disgusting. To think of that there are maximum of people who ought to be remarkable mom and dad and can't have babies. Then people like this have a baby and that's what they do. existence is thoroughly unfair each and every so often.

Answer 5

What you should do is stop daydreaming and get a life.

Didn't anybody teach you how to do math?
You said you were 16 when you raped some girl and now you are 23. But 23 - 16 = 7.

Now explain, how come you say your daughter is just 5 years old?

Answer 6

This is quite a story and I don't believe one bit of it. So far you have commited two crimes if it is true rape and kidnapping so if I were you and this is true (which I am sure that it is not) I would keep my mouth shut about the facts of her birth and try to be a better person from here on out.

Answer 7

You are making every bit of this up. First you can't do the math and the rest is just to hard to believe. Get a life you jerk.

Answer 8

5 is too young to traumatize someone with such drama. Tell her something but not what she can't comprehend. Wait until she's old enough to tell her the absolute truth.

Answer 9

i know that you can't be telling the truth on the Internet because if you is you got something going on in your head and you need help. if i was you i start praying to a man name GOD because that mean that you have problem and you need a person that is mighty and powerful than me and you to get some help. may God bless your soul and get some help please help your self

Answer 10

CALL HER AN D ASK HOW SHES DOING. TELL HER YOU HAVE A GOOD NEWS FOR HER PROVIDED SHE PROMISE YOU NOT TO TAKE OFFENSE. SHE WILL BE CURIOUS TO KNOW AND PROMISE U POSITIVELY. THEN YOU BOOK AN APPOINTMENT WITH HER AND BRAKE THE NEWS TO HER . AFTER SEEING THE GIRL HERSELF SHE WILL HUG YOU AND HUG THE GIRL TOO. YOU CAN GO AHEAD TO MARRY HER IF SHE IS NOT ENGAGED.

Answer 11

Look....unfortunately....the day is coming when she will learn the hideous truth....but not at 5!....but be prepared....she will not always blindly accept that all her daddy does as being perfect. The day will come that you are going to have to face your demons. As you should.