If you hurt a girl so badly and knew it, and it had to end the relationship. Would you confront her or try your best to avoid her. Also, when the person you hurt cries, does that even bother you??
This happened with me and my now ex. He said he wanted to be freinds, but now he does not even talk to me. Even though he was at fault for the relationship ending, I have forgiven him to be FRIENDS, and at first he was ok about it, but now he seems to want to have noting to do with me. We always said to each other that we would remain friends. Now its not that way. I called him in tears and tried to talk to him and cried about it but I got nothing. He has changed, he doesnt seem to be the same guy I knew. He hurt me pretty bad, do you think he just feels guilty and ashamed? When we were together, he never disrespected me. When this all went down, the disrespect came out on both of our ends. But again, I am very forgiving.I cant hold a grudge with him.
2007-02-01 03:12:43 · 7 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will admit I never gave him time to think about what he did, I did get very angry. Should I just leave well enough alone? I feel like he has forgotten me and what I did meant to him.
2007-02-01 03:13:58 · update #1
Whatever happened between the two of you, if you were hurt yet was willing to forgive him, and not hold a grudge, that shows you have a good heart. Maybe he hasn't forgiven you (or holding a grudge against you) for something you said to him. The best thing to do is give him his space, and when he's ready to talk to you, listen to him. If you disrespected him, just apologize...really the first one to apologize and forgive the other person that wronged them is the bigger person, and it shows maturity. If he really cares about you, you will find out over time as you give him his space. Just be patient.
2007-02-01 03:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of things. He may think that if he's kind to you, you're going to try to bring you back together (if he's the one who broke off). If you dropped him, he's probably not terribly happy with you. Furthermore, you have to realize that as guys we tend to deaden our feelings rather than deal with them -- and if that's what he's doing, the more you push him now, the less he'll care about you, for good or ill, in the long run. Furthermore, there is the possibility that he just plain doesn't care for you anymore. It happens. Move on and live it up! C'mon, you're Maria! You don't need someone else's weird drama and emotional complexes about you to mess you up. Move on, and if things change, that's great! If not, well, life is still great!
Without knowing the circumstances of your break up, that's all the information I think I can bank on.
2007-02-01 11:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by JDB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he sounds like he has moved on if i were you i would do the same thing if i hurt a girl and had her in tears i would feel terrible it is not nice knowing you are the reason for someones tears
2007-02-01 11:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'd help if i knew what he did, but more than likely he did what he did forgetting how he feels for you. I would say don't seem to desperate. Move on, if you REALLY want to be friends with him, just sit back and don't hound him or let him talk to you otherwise.
theres a fine line between friends and friends with benefits and that never works out.
So, being a guy, I'd say just treat him how he is treating you.
2007-02-01 11:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by ZombieFace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Unless after he has time to think about what he did and say he is sorry,.. or you think you should say your sorry for your part, but you should try to work it out with him. If not just move on with your life, after your married there will be more things that need to be worked out .............Have a very nice day ....Mel.....................
2007-02-01 11:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Melvin S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like sands through the hour glass and so are the days of our lives.
2007-02-01 11:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should just move on...Obviously he is "Just NOT that into you"..Sometimes reality hurts...Move on and you will be much happier..ss
2007-02-01 11:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋