My roommates and I have been friends for almost a year now. Fate brought us all together and we are all that each other has. We have been through the good, bad, ugly, and just plan stupid. And with this certain feelings can arise.
The story is that we are an odd bunch. Two twenty one year old females both poignantly different and yet so similar it is scary. He is nineteen and the savior of our lives. He has been our support system and the one and only guy that has truly cared about either of us.
My problem is, I have fallen for him ... and he has fallen for her. She doesn't want to be with him and I don't think he wants to be with me. But yet he sends mixed feelings to me. He will 'physically' be with me at times and others he is running at the mouth about her. He is captivated by her just as I am with him. Reminds me of threes company. My question is ... he tells her he cares about both of us. But, he always shows and gives her more. Does he even truly notice me?
2007-02-01 03:07:22 · 8 answers · asked by Echo Engel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, he doesn't seem to be just out for the physical aspect. I think it just has been an added benefit, but he never tells me to back off. Also, he will clearly write and answer that he loves us both. But he will only say 'I love you' or respond to it to and from her. I will tell him that I love him ... just meaning it as a friend and he will say 'yeah, okay' but then he will write that he loves us both. So if he loves me, why does he have a problem telling me? I tell all my friends that I love them, because you never know what tomorrow will bring. He tells her he loves her all the time ... and I am left in the dark until he writes us a note when he goes to work or whatever and it says "I love you girls " or whatever.
2007-02-01 03:18:20 · update #1
It seems that he only cares for you as a friend. I know this sounds harsh but you will have to stop torturing yourself. You cant make someone love you the way you want them to. I have been through the same experience and I know it hurts like hell. Move on. You will find someone special. Just believe and have faith. Be strong!!! Remember he is going to have to face the same ordeal sooner or later coz your other friend does not want him. Be a friend to him.
2007-02-08 22:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Spokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess at one point he felt equally about the both of you, but since he has made it clear that h likes her, he may start putting more attention to her than you, which doesn't mean he doesn't notice you, it just means he won't notice you as much anymore. when a guy or girl is captivated with someone they more then likely won't notice anyone else. i doubt that he'll stop caring for you, but he just clearly doesn't have the same feelings for you as he does for her and you'll have to come to realize that sooner or later.
2007-02-01 03:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's into her - period. He uses you for a piece. Yeah, sure he likes you - but that is it. Do yourself a favor and find some other savior who is into just you.
2007-02-09 00:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jasper213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he definelty seems more intrigue by her..also he may know that she does not feel the same way about him..and he knows that you like him soo if he cant get her then he can get you...i dont know what to tell you..except maybe look outside the box..
2007-02-01 03:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you three need to et together in the communal shower and have a 3 some!!!
2007-02-01 03:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from wht i get he cares for u but not as a gf just a piece
2007-02-01 03:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by paul lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a lot to read ... i'll have to get back to you on this one
2007-02-01 03:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya..
2007-02-01 03:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋