She isn't actually even my mother in law(yet anyways). My bf and I are in a serious relationship and I am already having trouble with his mother. She is always telling me that I need to wear more make up or do this or do that, which tends to offend me. She also has talked crap about my family which really offends me. I really want to get along with her because she is my partners mother and I know that they are close, but I am going out of my mind with the stuff she says to me and about me. What should I do to come to a peace with her?
2007-02-01 03:02:45 · 2 answers · asked by hc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have the same problem we keep our contact to a minium and when we do visit we watch wat we say. As regards the make up thing just say im not really a make up person i beleive it makes a person look fake. She may not like it but u r entitled to your opinion just like she is. They r trivial things so dont let it come between u. Do u agree with the crap that she talks about with your family? If u dont then say i beleive everyone is entitled to live there life the way they chose.
2007-02-01 11:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Try to live peacefully with her. Smile and compliment her. Always be polite, and be a person she can respect.
2. I tell my kids 'consider the source.' That means, if someone criticizes you unfairly, and they are not someone you think highly of anyway, you should not be too bent out of shape by what they say. Their opinion is not that important.
3. Bear in mind that if you marry this man you are going to be STUCK with this woman for life. It is his job to stand up to her and make her be nice, and if he cannot even do it while you are dating, he will not do it once you get married. The criticism will gt worse on her part because she will feel more entitled to give her opinion, and you won't be able to escape from her. Seeing your husband not stand up to his mother on your behalf will become cumulative in your mind, and this will be a big deal. Unless you move away, which is what we did to my inlaws, and that totally solved the issue...
2007-02-01 03:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋